Moved back to DC to be with my High School sweetheart.Keep in mind I have a ten yr old daughter from a 12 yr prior relationship.The day that I moved here I was feeling very uneasy.The 1st week someone stole my truck,I have'nt found a job,and he has changed.They are fixing my truck now at the shop it was found 2 weeks ago.I'm just ready to go I have never been so stressed in my life,I'm not happy here at all.I kept my apt in Va,Beach,thank God.His mouth is very foul,Every other word is a curse word.When he's nice he's very nice.But he's never hit me or nothing like that,it's just when I try and tell him I'm leaving when my truck is finished,he just keep right on talking like he don't here me.My truck is not big enough to take my daughter's bed and dresser back but I have enough room in my jeep to take our clothes.It's just something different about him now that he knows I want to leave.Please help any advice?
2006-11-08 03:11:25 · 18 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Leave if you feel it is a bad situation. You can buy material things but not your happiness.
2006-11-08 03:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you tried to relive your youth and reconnect with a past lover. People change over time and it seems obvious that this man has changed and is not the kind of fella that you want in your life. You can always sell your daughter's bed and whatever else won't fit into your jeep then head back to where you started. Don't look at it as a failure either. You gave it a good shot and it didn't work out, life is like that sometimes. Your daughter doesn't need to hear that type of language from a mature male anyway, as I'm certain she hears it enough at school from her chums acting like big shots. Do yourself and your daughter a favour and return to your home base. Explain to this man that things have changed way too much and that things just weren't as you expected. Best of luck to you, and continue to grow through this learned experience.
2006-11-08 03:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he's probably thinking he can talk you into staying. It is good that you kept your apartment. Although it got off to a bad start, maybe you should give it a little more time if you think the relationship is worth it. If you are having bad feelings about him & the relationship, then go back home with your child and get on with your life. You just have to explain to him that you just don't think this was the smartest move for you & your child. If he cares about you at all he will help you out with a truck rental to get your childs things back home. Listen to your self & do what is best for you & your child...don't let him pressure you into staying if it's against your better judgement. Good Luck.
2006-11-08 03:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, If your heart is telling you to get out of there then listen to it and GO!!!!!! If this man is not the man you thought he was going to be then don't put yourself into anything that's going to be HELL to get out of. When your truck gets fixed leave ASAP. If he wants to further things with you then let him move to your hometown so that way you don't have to worry about anything. Besides your daughter needs to be somehwhere steady right now especially as far as school goes. She doesn't need to be moved around too much when school is involved. I think getting back to your home is the best thing to do. You don't want any regrets. You made a smart move when you kept your old apartment. Listen to your heart on this one. If you have that gut feeling then act on it. It never proves you wrong.
2006-11-08 03:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gut instincts are telling you to get out of there then you have to follow through. Just cos he has'nt hit you yet, doesn't mean that he wont in the future. Just do what is right for you and your daughter, she is the one who will suffer most if you stay. And you have to be happy in your life, even if it means being alone for a while. Good luck, I wish you all the very best.
2006-11-08 08:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Pauline N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally...as a guy... i think he doesnt really have the same thoughts for you as you do for him...it was a good idea to keep your old house. i think that if you are not happy where you are now and the man ur after doesnt find you appealing...just move back to virginia beach. and your daughter doesnt need to hear those kind of words for that matter either. so stop stressing and move back....and as for the dresser and bed...im sure it wouldnt be too expensive to rent a small uhaul trailer to tow behind ur jeep. hope i helped
2006-11-08 03:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jarrod G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl get out of there .you do not need to be in a unhealthy relationship like that you most definitely do not need to have your daughter in that kind of environment; is having a relationship so important to you that you are willing to sacrifice having your child life molded wrong please examine yourself and get into loving yourself more . decide what you are willing to have in a relationship including the respect and acceptance of your daughter it is so important to not settle for anything be patient relationships are so very important to our lives make sure that when you decide to be in a relationship that the guy meets all of your standards in every part of your life and focus on being the best role model in your daughters life ;it will be you that she will or already is following after and if you can't imagine someone disrespectful to your child than you should not allow it for yourself i hope that you go back to Virgina and i hope that this is very helpful to you .God bless you and your daughter.
2006-11-08 03:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by MIZ MO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-21 21:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by Audrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your feelings ...If you still have the apt. go back to it..and your daughters dresser and bed..You can leave them behind ..Don't stay if you don't feel right..That is too bad that he has changed like that.....and forget him.. He obviously doesn't care about your feelings at all..I would just up and leave
2006-11-08 03:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your daughters things in storage until you can figure out a way to get it home. Dont leave it with him because that will only force you to continue a connection with him.
2006-11-08 03:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋