I am in love with this girl, but know she doesn't love me. I can't tell her how i fill as, she will say she doesn't love me and it would all be a mess. She lives with some of my mates and i see her in passing most days. Therefore i can't tell her as it would be really awkward. I thik she like me, but really as an aquitance, not even a friend, as we are not that close. How can i let her know how i fill, without making myself look like an idiot, and also ruining any friendship we may have. Please Help, this is driving me insane!!!!!!!!
2006-11-08 02:42:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just answered another of your questions and I think I can relate to you and your problem.
The best piece of advice I can give you is: DO NOT HAVE INFLATED EXPECTATIONS CONCERNING THIS GIRL.
Having high, unrealistic expectations concerning anything will lead to consistent disappointment. Aim high, but keep your feet on the ground.
As I can tell, you barely know her. You like her and feel attracted to her, but you probably don't have a lot of very important information that is the foundation a good relationship is built upon (shared values, similar interests, etc.)
I made that mistake a couple times and it leads only to wasting an enormous amount of mental energy.
Take it easy and try to spend more time with her. Try to share an interest and try to nurture your friendship. There's no harm in telling a friend that you enjoy their company, is there?
Take it step by step.
Maybe you'll realize you're better off just as friends and you can enjoy a valuable friendship.
If you feel like things are clicking, then I would suggest speaking openly with your FRIEND and telling her that you have feelings to want to be more than friends.
I just think that you are getting much too far ahead of yourself in this and you should take a more systemic approach.
Good luck.
2006-11-08 07:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Gorgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship starts from scratch!
Have a courage and call her or text her. I know it will be hard for you, though don't make this a great deal, lay back, and have a light date...like "would you like to catch a quick lunch with me?"
At this moment, she would know that you are interested in her.
Don't be too excited, and give out your full information. Play cool and try not to be too desperate!
That's the key for starting the relationship.
If your friends start checking you if you like the girl, stay cool and say that you would like to know her more, and you are interested in her. Nothing to hide!
That confidence of men are what we like.
I hope it'll work out good.
2006-11-08 11:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let her know your feelings without telling her some way somehow. If you have an interest in her you have to take a risk in telling her. Either she does or she doesn't. Take a chance and if she says she's not interested then you'll know and you can move on! And if she wants you you're a lucky guy! You never never know if you never never go.
2006-11-08 10:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by dirkthesmirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. You do not love her, you hardly know her. If you tell her you love her you will scare her. You make like her a lot, lust her or have a crush on her, but you should understand the difference.
Take some time to get to know her better and ask her out.
2006-11-08 10:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it safe and ask her out on a date. If she's interested in just more than a friendship then she will have no problem going. If she turns you down, try to focus on another girl. Good Luck.
2006-11-08 10:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her.you never know she might feel the same and think of all the time you could be wasting.if she doesnt think the same at least you know.maybe you will get a bit of stick for a few weeks but thats life.
remember:nothing ventured nothing gained.
2006-11-08 10:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl would not know unless you tell her or show some actions. take care of her activities, support her in everything she does. Ask her for out. most important is give her a perfect and honest smile.
2006-11-08 10:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by LemonPro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound more like a crush, you had best try and get a date with her first, declaring your love to some one who does not really know you is risky.
2006-11-08 11:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there mate should just tell her it the only way it will only eat at you if she dont feel the same i know it hard but move on if she wants the same bonus but you got to do it you will make yourself ill good luck
2006-11-08 13:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by vanilla902 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't choose you before you let her know you love her, you will only push her away
Dont tell her until you figure out away to get her to like you more
I suggest you try to have sex with her first
2006-11-08 10:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋