I have a college professor that I am very attracted too. I know you are not supposed to date your professor especially since I will be taking one of his other classes next semester but I'm so attracted to him that sometimes I flirt with him. I don't think he's interested because I'm his student but he sometimes flirts back. Is this wrong? Could I ever possibly go out with him or is it just attraction?
2006-11-08 02:40:03 · 11 answers · asked by Venus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was a single professor for a while and there were many students that caught my eye.
There are very strict rules about 'dating' a student. It is in almost every professors contract usually under the code of ethics. You can not be involved with any of your students. It does not state that being involved with any student is a violation of the code, just any that you have a direct influence over.
Thus if you try to go out with him while one of his students you might jeopardize his job. Wait until you are finished then see what happens.
2006-11-08 02:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Charles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to him, but don't feel that the attraction is mutual, why are you planning on having him as an instructor next semester? Perhaps you just want to think that he is flirting in return. Are there not other instructors teaching the course? You may set yourself up for negative consequences if you try to pursue this "thing" that you have for him. It could lead to someone getting hurt really badly (you) or even getting a non-passing grade. If you really think there is a chance for something to happen between you two, why don't you ask to meet with him after his classes are done. maybe go to a coffee shop or something and have a candid talk with him. If you speak to him in a mature manner (by the way, how old are you guys?), he may just actually want to have some sort of communication that reaches beyond the student-teacher line. If you are in college, the rules change in terms of dating. Just be an adult about the whole situation, and don't go doing anything stupid if he rejects you. This is probably just a passing crush anyway.
2006-11-08 10:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don´t believe is very ethical and more if he is teaching you, it is not ethical because is a proffesional relation not a friendly one, that is very different to say: "I knew a guy in the store that happens to be a college teacher", this could be misunderstood and is not correct to mix emotions with grades, he could harm his own reputation if this allows this relation.
Change the course or maybe talk to him but find the correct opportunity, If I were you I wouldnt talk about it while I take the course because I could think some bad grade was the cause of being honest about my feelings with the teacher, talk to him after you pass the course maybe or find the correct way, being honest and open sometimes is not the best, and he may understand it if he is a college teacher, this way you wont feel the need to date him because your emotions were exteriorizated to him and he will know exactly what you feel about him, but honesty is more important than hiding relationships.
At least your honest with yourself if you talk to himn after passing the course that way you and he will know this is not about emotions for grades, is about something real, I would keep it as a secret and talk to him when the course is over.
2006-11-08 11:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by frankomty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really conflicted on this one.
I was a professor and I was pretty young.
Guys like to flirt. Just no stopping that.
I've had students show interest and I've had interest.
Had to stop it because of my own moral issues about my position.
I did go out with one after she graduated. Nice woman.
But there is still one side of me that agrees with the first answer here.
I wish I could have a few times.
I'm really not a teacher
I'm a researcher I'm not sure I was morally balanced in my job choice.
I just pulled it off so to speak. (pun intended) 8^)
2006-11-08 10:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kaustaub 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! And here I thought I was the only one who was crushing on their instructor. I too have developed a crush on a professor. I know nothing will ever come out of it since we are both married with children, but the flirting has become shameless!!! Flirting is innocent, it's acting out on the flirtiness that takes it to another level. You need to use your best judgement here. Is your instructor single? If so, I say go for it. If not, I would say to let the crush die a natural death and move on.
2006-11-09 13:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ceebatch 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It may just be an attraction. But if I were you I would leave the professor alone. Only bad can come from that type of situation. It's okay to have a crush but don't go any further.
2006-11-08 10:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. He come in contact with tons of young beauties, and you will Be surely dumped. NO reflection on you. It's the way men are, especially with all the temptation around him
2006-11-08 10:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sure, go out with him. just remember, the bus to the unemployment house only comes once an hour
2006-11-08 10:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by jimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirt, date him, bang him. Set yourself up for an easy "A" next semester.
2006-11-08 10:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by sir_lag 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Is he married? If he is, then no its not ok, and besides he can get in trouble and even lose his job.
2006-11-08 10:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋