I have been with my girlfriend for over a year and things have been great. Recently (in the last month), I have noticed she is not as affectionate or sexual as she has been in the past and seems somewhat indifferent to me. She has just started a new job and I figured it was mostly due to stress.
Well I was with her last night and this morning she says she loves me, has a great time with me, I am her best friend, yet she is feeling like she is not in love with me anymore and doesn't feel the spark anymore. What can I do to make her attracted to me again?
2006-11-08 02:36:58 · 12 answers · asked by Red Kal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's the thing, its not based on attraction and sex only. We do tons of things together and enjoy a lot of the same things.
2006-11-08 02:39:55 · update #1
Have taken her out, bought flowers, etc. Trying to do everything I can think of, and she says it is not anything I am doing or not doing.
2006-11-08 02:41:15 · update #2
Don't try to force it. If she is going to love you then you should not have to do anything out of the ordinary. Will you love yourself if you change yourself just to please someone else?
Sometimes people are not always on the same page. The hardest thing in the world is acceptance. You have to accept the situation for what it is. That doesn't mean you stop loving her. Just be patient. You don't want he to fall in love with a made up you stay the way you are. Money and gifts can't buy love.
Know your heart....
2006-11-08 02:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by t j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not alot you can do to make somebody attracted to you again...try spicing things up in the bedroom!! Run her a nice bath, with bath salt and foam light some candles...crack open a bottle of wine. When she gets out of the bath maybe give her a nice massage and get an early night....wink wink
2006-11-08 10:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the honeymoon is over...I hope you two had some other kind of connection (common interest, etc) besides lust to get you through now that the fire has dimmed a little bit. This is a normal part of a relationship. Eventually the shine wears off, but its what was underneatht the shine that makes it last.
2006-11-08 10:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by Rum_Punch_Girlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something very romantic for her, take her out to a nice restaurant, or do something for her that u know she likes, but u dont enjoy. she'll see how hard ur trying to make her happy
try spicing up ur sex life, i know ur relationship is not based on sex, but spicing it up a little bit is going to help. do something for her that u know she likes, in bed, but that u dont do very often, or at all. talk about different fantasies with each other, like sex in public, just little things like that.
make her a little card, or buy one but made ones are so much cuter and show that u care, and tell her how much u love her.
2006-11-08 10:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to restore the spark. Vacations, even just weekend road trips, have helped me in the past.
2006-11-08 10:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mac13eth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
expect this things to happen. a lasting relationship does not last if its based on attraction and sex only.
2006-11-08 10:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Save your emotional sensationalism for the next woman that you date, so you might actually be able to prevent her from arriving at the point this one has already arrived at. Next time, pay attention to the signs and don't be so cavalier because everything "seems okay". Don't throw good money after bad; you've already lost her...move on. Don't lose you!
2006-11-08 10:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Buy her a beautiful bouqet of flowers or take her out on a nice date.
2006-11-08 10:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't Make her be attracted to your again. She has a right to feel how she feels and you can't change that. Sometimes, things like this happens, and you generally have to just learn to deal with it and get over it. Even though it sucks!
good luck with whatever happens, just don't try and force her to love her!!
2006-11-08 10:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by britt 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a lota women feel comunication and conection
are really importan,how are u in this area?
talk to her as if ur reaaly intrestd in her as a person and u
care,see what happens,,,
a lota men are not good at this
2006-11-08 10:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by heartofglass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋