Ok, my ex dumped me 2 months ago (after a 4 yr relationship) i was thinking about her non stop until i met this gal on saturday nite, weve been txting a lot over the last few days, i aint really thought about my ex these last few days, because of this new gal. is it too soon after a long relationship to start maybe dating a new gal...? generally these 'rebound' relationships dont last, and will not be fair to the new gal... What should i do...? i would like to meet this new gal again soon, we seem to ave a lot in common.
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2006-11-08 02:23:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just have fun. No commitments, no relationship, no worries.
Enjoy this new person.
Life is too short.
2006-11-08 02:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never too soon if it helps you get past your loss.
It sounds to me like you have the same problem I have. If you date a girl you like you begin thinking of living together or marriage. Don't do that.
Your first relationship is over. She dumped you. Now you have found another that you find interesting but don't even think of it in a relationship way yet. Date....date....date....get to know her over time. If it clicks.....great.....if not there will be others.
As for rebound relationships....as with all things....that all depends. My wife dumped me after 37 years. We have two grown children and several grandchildren.
After working through the grief I begin talking to women on the Internet and met one that seemed real nice and was local.
We went out often and eventually moved in together.
We have now been married for 4 years with no looking back. Not all rebound relationships fail. But you should really take it very slow.
And right now don't restrict yourself to one woman. Date.....you never know what is down the road. It is quite possible the loss of your first woman may be the best thing that ever happened to you.
2006-11-08 02:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl is really that great then you could be passing up a good thing. I say go for it! Yes, rebounds suck but if you be honest with the girl and yourself let her know the sit. and dont move too quickly it could work!! Face it you have been in a relationship for 4 years it feels normal to have a serious relationship dont make a new one too serious too soon. mabye it will become somethin wonderfull mabye not. It is a good sign that you havent been thinking about your ex. though!!
2006-11-08 02:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beginning of any possible relationship can be pretty exciting. I wouldn't really ruin it with the stereotype of "rebound relationship."
Would it still be rebound if it were your first relationship 6 months after your break up? a year?
Just make sure the new girl is aware of your fresh break and enjoy your time together as friends and maybe it'll move forward to something else.
Miss Cris
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2006-11-08 02:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every person 'needs' a rebound relationship. Hy hubby was my 'rebound' relationship (dated him 1 month after a 3 1/2 year relationship) and we have 3 beautiful kids, married 12 happy years and things are great! Go fo it!
2006-11-08 02:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets over an old relationship in their own time. Go ahead and test the waters and meet up with her. You may have a great time and find a great person. If you wait too long you might miss out on a great thing!
2006-11-08 02:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, but try not to compare everything she does to the Ex. It might also be a good idea when you are feeling comfortable enough with her to explain that you have only been single for 2 months.
If you dont act, you may never get the chance to see her again.
And it also may be a good part of the healing process.
But remember, do NOT dwell on your ex or make unfair comparisons. She will not appreciate this at all.
Best of luck!
2006-11-08 02:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by artisticallyderanged 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too soon. As long as you continue to look forward with this new relationship instead of dwell on the past one.
It's only a rebound relationship if you consider it that. And if you do, you're right, it probably won't last.
2006-11-08 02:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by cwbraves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date the new girl and move on. it's a whole lot better to find out if your new relationship is real or on-the-rebound after it has happened. don't be so quick to judge. it's also not fair for the lady. and find out if you really have a lot in common OR is she just different from/the opposite of your previous girl. remember, she might not be on-the-rebound and you might end up twice hurt.
2006-11-08 02:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by thomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..well here's what you want to hear...go for it...here's what you should here...i advise against it. I'm coming from experience on this. I dated a guy for 3 years and then we broke up..and I was depressed for like 2 weeks and then i met this amazing guy..and i really really liked him but i felt bad for it..but i dated him anyways...after 3 months of talking and *cough other stuff* we broke up..and i just felt even worse...trust me..take some time with this...try (and i know its hard) to completely get over this girl before you start on a new one..in the mean time get to know this new girl and if you erally do have a lot in common..things will work out and she will wait for you....hope this helps..:/
2006-11-08 02:28:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then meet her. you should tried to forget your ex, and if that is success with that new girl I don't see why not. I was in relationship for 2 years, and that guy left me. Soon after that I meet wonderful boy, and go out with him. I tried. Now we are 7 months in beautiful relationships and I am again in love.
2006-11-08 02:30:05 · answer #11 · answered by Dijana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋