I've been dating a guy for a month now. He is friendly,gorgeous and a good person. But he is always talking about marriage and babies. Saying it would make him the happiest man alive if i got pregnant. He also says things like 'will you move in with me' and 'marry me'. I just laugh at him sometimes but i can tell he's being serious. Why do you think he is rushing things?insecurity?
2006-11-08 02:16:17 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he's insecure. Do you know about his past relationships etc? Maybe he just needs to know you're not going anywhere and you're happy at the way things are for the moment x x x
2006-11-08 02:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, maybe he is saying these things because he thinks that's what you want to here. By you laughing it off it allows him to think that it is OK for him to talk like that. If you haven't already slept with him then he is trying to get you in the sack...if you have then he is trying to reassure you so that you will feel comfortable doing it more frequently. He thinks he would be happy if you were pregnant, but he does not realize the physical, emotional, and economical strain having a child brings and the sad thing is it is easier for him to walk away from a baby then you. Second of all, if he is being totally serious then he sounds a little scary. It reminds me of one of those stories where the boyfriend turns possessive and abusive in the end. Any man trying to push himself into you life like that is only doing it for control. Be careful with him.
2006-11-08 02:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl hes rushing!
Theres is no need to rush things at all. If you rush into things it gets messy and massive cracks appear in the relationship.
Your still getting to know one another.
I have been with my bloke for 2yrs nearly and I would one day marry him an concider kids but in the future.
Its a early stage in your relationship make sure it well worth it before the big commitments. Just tell him how you feel straight but of course in a nice way. He should understand if not then he is slightly mentally wanting to rush!
Good luck darlin Claire x
2006-11-08 02:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by darbys_babbs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wooo...back off honey! This guy has some other problems associated with being in control of every situation. He's planning YOUR life here! Tell him he's rushing things a bit. Men like this are afraid of being alone...yes insecure. He will be possessive and jealous and want his way all of the time. I'd be very careful if I were you...and tell him the truth!!!
2006-11-08 02:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can't be sure cuz I'm not him...but he might be thinking you are the one.
But a month is TOO FAST!! as you may agree.
If he starts talking like that again, and if that's like the 10th time saying, ask him in the eye if he's serious.
If he says he is, tell him "I'm very happy you are thinking seriously of me, but I would like to take things slowly cuz I want us to be special. I want to know you more, and I want you to know me more too. If you still think you want to be with me in half an year, let me know again."
Yes, at least for half an year, you two should figure if this is going right. And remember, girls are always the ones who should be directing the right direction for guys!! Don't let him hurt you!
2006-11-08 03:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't want to lose you, sounds like you need to sit down with him and tell him that you are with him for a reason and that he just needs to slow down a little, that babies, a family, and marriage come when the time is right and that they will happen naturally and over time.
Believe me you don't want to rush into marriage, Divorce is expensive lol
2006-11-08 02:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to work with a guy that was exactly the same as this with every girl he met (not saying your guy is) he even on a first date with someone asked them where they should go on holiday next year!! and he wondered why women would run a mile. this guy was very confident, but I think he really didn't have much experience talking on a sensible level and would get carried away saying teh first thing that came to his mind.
2006-11-08 02:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just really wants to settle down quickly with someone, and he obviously thinks it's you! Be flattered, but if you are really looking for such different things, talk to him and if necessary, part company. It may be hard, but it may be easier to get out while you're still in control of the situation, than let it drag on for months and months, with him hoping you will get pregnant!
2006-11-08 02:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by jowigley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's trying to test the water, just to find out what you think about him.
He probably sounds unsecure...... maybe been hurt in the past, but feels comfortable with you, but needs to find out.
When he asks you these things, he maybe laughing and joking but as you said he is serious about it.
The only way you're gonna find out, is talk to him.....this might help settle his nerves, because in the end it might annoy you, him saying these things, when things are fine.
Hope it works out for you.
2006-11-08 02:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by BigD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, a very deep and dangerous insecurity... the father of my child was EXACTLY the same... unfortunately i did get pregnant, and then found out what a nut case he was. well, i dumped him, and now he won't have anything at all to do with his daughter, which i'm not sure isn't a bad thing.
2006-11-08 06:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by sofiarose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋