When I call my friends or family I call one time and leave a message. Then I wait for them to call me back. I understand that they may be busy or can't afford to give me any attention right now. I have a friend who will blow up my phone and my husband's until we answer, or call back. We have other things to do. He will also leave ugly messages about us not answering our phones. The funny thing is he only comes around us when he is not seeing anyone. When he has a girlfriend he is so far up her butt we never hear from him. Now he has started showing up everyweek on his days off, for about a month now. We are hiding in our own home. He even shines a light in to see if we are home. What should we do? And is anyone else out there this telephone agressive?
2006-11-08 02:05:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him what you said above "He will also leave ugly messages about us not answering our phones. The funny thing is he only comes around us when he is not seeing anyone. When he has a girlfriend he is so far up her butt we never hear from him. " and tell him "Look, If we dont answer our phone it's because we are busy with something, we will call you back. If you keep flooding our phones we WONT call you back."
I'd address the 'part time friend' issue too. Tell him that he seems to only need you when he's single, but he has to realize you have lives of your own. Your a married couple with many priorities. And if he shows up unannounced, answer the door and say "We're busy right now, Why dont WE call you to hang out next week?
Be honest, upfront and let him know his behavior is not acceptable.
2006-11-08 02:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Jello 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he shows up without being invited, don't open the door. Tell him it's a bad time and to call before coming over. He'll eventually get the message that drop-ins are not allowed.
2006-11-08 02:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you really don't want him around. Get rid of him once and for all. And the light thing? That's just not right. That's really sad that you have to hide in your own home, that's your sanctuary.
2006-11-08 02:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by ♥kissie♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is not a frienf he is an aquantance. Ithink pesonally there are person out there like that.You stop thea from calling your phone but you can help him by talking to him about it in a nice and generous way
2006-11-08 02:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by Odane/Botton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invest in call blocker and tell him the next time he shines a light into your home you're going to automatically assume he's a burglar casing your place and whatever happens, happens.
2006-11-08 02:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 12:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not normal! He sounds like a pseudo-stalker. You and your hubby need to sit this guy down and have a "friendly chat" about him not showing up at your house uninvited and about him not clogging up your machine. Really, that is bizarre behavior!
2006-11-08 02:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that this is geting on your t!ts & that he has to stop it you have a life to lead as well, or comprmise tell him that he can come 1 time a month so that you have a life & so does he.
mAKE SURE THAT U PRE ARRANGE THE DAY SO THAT YOU KNOW WHEN HES COMING
2006-11-08 02:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by party69_27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree TACT is the key here, tell him that is not ok and you wont put up with it
2006-11-08 02:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by Just a Q or 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politely but firmly tell him you do not appreciate his behaviour .. TACT is the key here ...
2006-11-08 02:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by edifiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋