Confused... Please Help!!?

Question

My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago now and he is back with his ex. I normally dont have any problems moving on and getting over someone but in this case things have been totally different. I think about him all the time and I cant seem to get over him. Ive tried to talk to him I mean I dont see why we cant be friends but he has been really mean to me because of his girlfriend now and I think that its wrong of him to be like that. I dont know what to do I wish I could just get over him... but its not that easy and Im just sick of hurting... please help...

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear you're in such pain. Unfortunately, hurting comes with the territory; it will lessen over time.

You can do things to help yourself, though it might be hard:

1. You broke up for a reason, don't forget that.

2. He is now involved with someone else, and you may be crushed that he moved on so quickly. Don't be; give yourself time...his moving on is no reflection on you.

3. Be honest with yourself about your real motivation for keeping in contact with him. You've tried to talk to him...he does not want to talk to you. Accept it and stop torturing yourself, your attempts to speak with you aren't getting you anywhere.

4. You may think it's wrong for him to respond the way he is, but look at it from his perspective: You broke up; he's involved with someone else and you keep calling him. You can let go, and it's annoying to him. What reason would he have to talk to you other than to tell you to leave him alone? What if the situation were reversed?

No, it isn't easy. Having been there, I promise you you'll get over him in time. You'll look back on this and wonder what all the hoopla was all about. In the meantime, stop calling him; it's not healthy and you're only hurting yourself. It's not going to bring him back to you.

Take care...

Answer 2

Get over him, and if he ever wants you back don't let him back in. Apparently he still had some strong leftover feelings for his ex, so just ignore it and move on with your left. There was a reason why they broke up in the first place so don't be surprise if it happens again.

Answer 3

I know it's not easy but you have to try. Do you want him back or just want to be friends? If you don't want him back, you have to move on. If you just want to be friends, it's a lot harder especially if there's a girlfriend involve. It'll take time but you'll eventually get over him.

Answer 4

I would suggest staying away from him just until you come to terms with it, also if he is going to be a *** then maybe it's not a good idea being friends you don't need that **** it may take a while but you will feel better and find someone else!

Answer 5

you know, everybody's different. Sorry about what you're going through, but life is all about acceptance. Accept what you cannot change. Focus on other areas of your life, I'm sure you'll find someone who loves you and understands you for what you are... someone less impulsive.

Answer 6

get over it. it hurts now but you have to find ways to heal yourself. it sounds like he is obviously is a relationship that he want to protect. so let them have space and stay away from them. find some hobbies and meet new people. let go, let go. anyway u can

Answer 7

girlfriend i can't help you cause I'm going through the same thing myself. Just know you arent' the only one out there going through this. Sorry it sucks i know.

Answer 8

Your relation is over and that's all!
try to find another one instead of waiting for him!

Answer 9

dump him cutie. there are better guys in teh world

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tom
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