My husbands parents just seem to go from family member to family member. I almost left my husband the last time they lived here ,for 6 months. I have tried to tell him that they are not my parents and not my responsibility. I need my space. He cannot seem to get it.It looks like they may return soon and I have told him that 1 month is it. I know he is too chicken to say anything and I dont want to be the bad guy. What would you do?
2006-11-08 01:52:26 · 7 answers · asked by glasgowgone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Next time they Go out-Change all the Locks around the House!
They'll get the Message!
Alternatively,have an Open,Honest Conversation with Your Husband about this concern!
Keep Calm and rational at All times(Best way to get your point Across!)
Hope it goes well for you!!
2006-11-08 01:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's really not up to you to answer for his family. that's up to your husband - i guess he's having a hard time with this, too. he stuck between his family and you. but, i don't think you are being fair when you tell him his parents are not your responsibility - technically, you are right but when you marry you share each others ups and downs. six months is a long time, and your idea of one month is, indeed, fair. instead of attacking his family when you talk to your husband, explain how your life becomes so disrupted that it's destroys you. you are willing to do this for the one month because you love HIM and if HE loves you he'll speak to his parents saying that they could visit for the one month but after that both of you have responsibilities in your own family and just cannot keep them with you any longer than that. good luck,
2006-11-08 02:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are right they are not your parent and not your responsibility, but they are his parents. you do live in the same house don't you? so what your saying is if your parents needed to come and stay that would be OK because they are your parents? doesn't this sound pretty stupid and selfish to you? you did not say why his parents go from one family to another. needless to say these are his parents and his home also, so come to some kind of an agreement with him. and remember this is not just your decision.
2006-11-08 13:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are either being selfish or a bad daughter-in-law for thinking that your husband is too chicken to tell off his own parents, they are his parents he can't just turn his back on them, maybe your husband should kick your *** out the house instead that's what i will do if my spouse ever ask me to do that to my own parents. Shame on You.
2006-11-08 02:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by LaoSy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you guys take the "for better or worse" part out of your wedding vows?
Whether you believe it or not, this one will come back on you someday....I hope you NEVER want to stay with your children & their spouses!
2006-11-08 06:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them straight out . Don't hold back or they won't get it. Some people are like that. You just tell them you need your space .
2006-11-08 01:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell them that you married ther son not them and tell them that you can not live with them if you dont nip it in the bud you will have them another 6 mons
2006-11-08 03:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋