I am having problems with life and i need help! PLEASE?

Question

Some times i fell like i was put on this earth to suffer. Let me explain my situation. I have been child abused all my life back stabbed bye every friend ive ever had and looked down on. Im not asking you to fell sorry for me so dont take this the wrong way. I have always withdrawen from social situations and stuck to myself. Anxity and depression started at a very young age and it has only gotten worse as ive grew older. I am 18 now and sometimes i dont even want to live anymore. Im scared to get a job and start my journey threw life. What should i do. I know i need help but i dont have the money or anyone to help me out with that. How can i move on from this hunting pass and get out there and start to live. Please dont judge and tell me to stop felling sorry for myself becouse you have not been in my shoes there for do not have the right to judge (in my opionion). All i want is a nice life ahead with a caring women if thats not to much to ask. But how just how do i push myself. TY

Answer 1

Hi Raiden, well..you are going to get alot different ways to look at your situation. You sound like an honest, straight-forward kind of guy that has had to deal with alot in 18 years. My heart goes out to you and if I had the answers I would tell you..but if I told you they would only be the "answers" for myself. You are the only one that holds all the answers for what is right for you. As frustrating as that may sound to you it is actually good news. You don't have to follow any one elses path. This life is your journey and you are not asking too much out of it. Sometimes the only thing that holds us back is our own fears...fear of getting hurt, fear of rejection, fear of judgment, fear of failure... I want you to try something for me. ask yourself what you would do today if you weren't afraid. Don't push yourself into anything just think about it. When you are ready you will know it. There is nothing wrong with you. You weren't put on this earth to suffer you were put here to discover. And if you believe nothing else...please believe me that how you feel about yourself and life today will be different with each passing day.

Answer 2

Life affects everybody differently some stronger than others. I'm sorry to hear that you've had a troubled past, but no I don't feel sorry for you, because I like everybody else have had my problems. What you have to do is realize that life is about taking chances. Sometimes (a lot of times to some of us) it feels like you always make the wrong choices or the bad things only happen to you, but there are millions of people that feel the same way. Eventually one day you will meet the perfect girl and you'll feel happier than you've ever felt before...and you might even meet her at work so look forward to getting a job and getting out to meet new and better people than you have dealt with before.

Answer 3

Only you can change your life. Find you a good job and get out of the situation you are in. When you find a job you will make new friends and perhaps even meet a nice girl. There aren't many people out there who have a perfect life. Noone can honestly look back on their childhood and say they were happy 100% of the time, but some do have it worse. You can't control what happens to you before you are 18. However, you are the only one who can control what happens to you after you are 18. Good Luck to you!

Answer 4

with 14 everything is a problem, every day is hard. I felt the same. But, there is always but, we are just part of nature, and you hormones are wild at the moment. Try to find something else to do like playing an instrument or some sport, let the steam out and you'll be a lot better. In one year much better in two even better. Just accept you are becoming a man and girls will like you and girls will want you, but they also first have to be ready for that. Wait a little bit and you'll see it will happen for sure. In my country we say, for God it took 7 days to create our world, so it takes also time for us-people to accomplish our goals.

Answer 5

first off you have to stop thinking you are bad and start telling yourself that u are a good person, you are making bad choices in you friends if they are stabbing you in the back, so go to the mirror look in it and tell yourself that you are a good person, you handsome and people will be luck to have you as a friend. then find something you like to do, get involved in something so u can make a diffrence, maybe find a group that work with abused children and try to work with those kids or become a big brother to some child that has no one to care of them, just find positive things and surround yourself with them if someone is neg. just walk away they are not benifical to your well being, for the depression try some omega 3 fish oil (my step son usese it who was also abused as a child by his natural mother) he calls them his happy pills. but do the mirror thing everyday several times when you hear positive you will become possitive, it works try it.
hope this helps a little

Answer 6

Radien don't feel bad everyone has been through things. I have friends that were abused as children and I have been through a lot with family matters myself. You have to realize it will get better and with you being so young you have the choice right now to change your life. You can do and become anything you want to and that should make you happy knowing that. If you need counseling check some organizations in your area. There are several places that will offer free counseling.

Answer 7

As a recovering depressed and social anxiety person myself I think the best thing you can do is start over. move out of there! i know its not always the best thing to run away from your problems, but you can deal with them later after you get settled in with your new life. go somewhere you have always wanted to go, experience something new. i dont know what your interests are but go hang out at an art museum, or go to some rockin concert for a day. find out what makes you happy and do it! get inspired! you just need courage, and i know thats hard, but you need to stop worrying about anyone else but yourself right now. i know it seems easier said than done, but just take it one day at a time. you will get better i promise, i am doing so much better, and not because i have the perfect job or boyfriend, but because i have learned to care about myself more and not care what everyone wants me to do, or what they think about me. i hope this helps a little. best of luck!

Answer 8

Everything is totally up to you and how you handle your life. I too was abused, sexually, physcially, and mentally by my parents and older bother. Many times in my life I have felt that people were out to get me, but I finally snapped one day and tried to kill my self. My wife helped me through it, but I also when to a councilor and shrink too.

As a child being abused, I told myself that when I grew up I as never touching anyone like I had been touched, and vowed to be a success person. We I am very successful today, and I treat everyone with respect and dignity, unlike what I went through. During counciling, telling my trials through my childhood, the councilor said she was amazed I was not a thief, murderer or rapist the life I endured through age 19.

You have to be positive about your self and find someone to help you through the hard time, whether it is a girl friend, or a good close friend, doctor, councilor. Someone out there will help, but it starts with you asking for help.

Feel free to contact me if you wish to help you out more. Good luck buddy.

Answer 9

dont loose hope.
18 is a diffecult age.
all your past does is prepare you for dealing with the present.
its no wander you isolate yourself, you probably dont trust anymore. thats something you need to learn.
first find out the extent of the damage caused by your past.
seek therapy and a diagnosis.
look for groups that share similar background.
your aim is to find out how much of your situaion is really the cause of the person you've become because of your past and how much is caused by the fear of being real you.
dont be fooled, by ideals and fears.
you will have to rebuid a better you.that is stronger and more determined to succeed.
find a possitive role model, teacher, thearapist or doctor.
someone with attributes you'd like to enjoy one day.
when you meet people use the charactoristics you like most in others to build a good friendly foundation.
from there grow with cofidence.

Answer 10

Sorry to hear about your difficulties. It has been a lot for you to handle. The thing is that at your age and a little older we feel afraid about our future and if we can manage it OK. This is normal. You have many issues to deal with and it makes things seem darker than they are.
If you want this nice life then begin to believe in it. One step at a time. Believe you are a good person, you are.