I havent seen my boyfriend in a couple of months(i was losing interest and sick of his ways). He was in the hospital with a broken foot and because he lives far from me i didnt go and see him. Anyway,in the meantime i met a guy at work(who happens to be a policeman)and i really like him alot. How do i finish with my bf because he's kinda crazy and knows where i live? I dont love him but he does me and said he would kill the guy if i ever cheated. I dont know what to do and i cant tell my cop boyfriend about him because he would dump me,help?
2006-11-08 01:29:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are dating a cop. Enough said. Tell him that your ex is psycho. Cops take care of their own trust me.
2006-11-08 01:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Saint 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think that the cop would dump you? They deal with all kinds of wack jobs every day. He should understand that you are afraid of your boyfriend, you want out of the relationship, and you are looking for a fresh start with him.
Not only will he understand, he'll probably be supportive of you. He has seen with his own eyes how out of control men can get when they are dumped, and has probably been on more than one domestic disturbance and/or abuse calls. So he'll appreciate that the guy made threats, and is obsessive about you.
Dump him over the phone so you're not in danger, get a restraining order against your old boyfriend, and let the cop know that you did it. He'll be more than happy to help enforce it when he's with you.
Trust me, he's more than capable to deal with any crazy ex.
2006-11-08 01:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are underestimating your "cop boyfriend" you should trust him more to help you with this. Call your other boyfriend and tell him it's over. All men say they will kill the man you leave them or cheat on them for but most of the time that's just talk. But just in case it's more serious your "cop boyfriend" has a right to know so he can watch his back.
2006-11-08 01:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REALITY CHECK!!! The cop has at least one gun! Feel secure in telling him about the crazy fool stalking you. I'm sure he would understand, as he deals with idiots like your ex for a living. I noticed that you still refer to your ex as your "boyfriend". Its YOUR responsibility to put an end to this relationship! YOU need to tell him its over and that you don't love him, otherwise you may leave him in a perpetual state of confusion and anger over your dishonesty regarding your relationship
I can appreciate a good man in a well fitting uniform too, start being honest with yourself, and the men in your life, otherwise you'll never be at peace
2006-11-08 01:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you handled this the wrong way, you should have put an end to the relationship with you bf first, especially since he was in the hospital and you just let it go and dated someone else, thats low and wrong but whats done is done now i think you need to handle this right now before it goes to far and the whole thing blows up say what you need to say to each of them and let the chips fall where they may lying never solved anything long term and if you let it go with your new bf hes going to really be pissed when he finds out some other way
2006-11-08 01:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...if i were you i would just finish with your boyfriend. After all you are dating a cop so its 24 hours protection. I would also tell your cop friend about the other guy then he won't have any nasty surprises...its best to tell the truth from the start...
2006-11-08 01:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to date anyone you want. You weren't married to your ex. But you should let the cop know about the situation, just in case your ex tries to hurt him. He needs to be on guard. And being a cop, he can probably help you.
2006-11-08 01:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the cop. Your ex won't be bothering you again, that's for sure. Just don't ask about him, don't worry about it, just tell the cop and you'll be good. This guy "admitted to conspire to kill an officer of the law," after all.
2006-11-08 01:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Masta Batang Dollar Billz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you been in contact with your boyfriend in the time apart? If not then I think hes kinda got the hint!!
If you have been in contact then just tell him that your path in life has taken a different direction and you just dont feel that hes part of it anymore and you hope he'll respect your wishes and leave it at that.
If he does start harrassing - you'll have to lie to your current boyfriend to save the relationship - just tell him you'd finsihed with him before you got with this guy and now your ex has just taken to harrassing you fo no reason.
xx
2006-11-08 01:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well it sounds like you are totally playing the field in the absence of your poor wounded bf! but break up with the guy for heaven's sake! i'm sure there's cute nurses at the hospital or something who would comfort him and make it less painful for him! be fair-bad karma is nasty and you don't want to mess stuff up for you and your policeman!
2006-11-08 01:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋