My boyfriend mentioned that he noticed I gained a few pounds. I was very upset after I got off the phone and felt that he was insensitive. I am 5"2" and weight 135. I have always felt that I am beautiful and he made me feel bad about myself. Although it was not his intention to hurt my feelings that's what happened. How can I let him know that without getting pissy with him (because I am both sad and mad)?
2006-11-08 01:24:56 · 15 answers · asked by cudancegirl1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him that weight is a sensitive issue and despite whatever he thinks, you feel beautiful! 135 is not fat at all.......you probably have a few curves like most women....and he wouldn't want you to be scrawny and unhealthy!
bless you
2006-11-08 01:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by BOOYAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him what were his intentions for mentioning that you'd gained a few pounds. Is he unhappy and wanting you to lose weight? Is he fearful that you'll be unhealthy or is he criticizing your looks? If he genuinely didn't mean to hurt you, tell him how you feel. Let him know if comments on your weight are off limits. Remember, you have to try and keep your opinion of yourself positive no matter who may say negative things about you. Your self esteem should be based on your idea of self, not fluctuating with the opinion of others.
2006-11-08 01:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if you feel good about yourself PLEASE don't let him change your opinion. I dated a guy once that made a point of telling me when I gained some weight. He now dates someone twice my size, (and not very attractive) With guys, I think its a way to keep you under control because being beautiful and slim threatens their security.
Just tell him "sorry that you feel that way but according to the scale I have actually lost a pound"
If he keeps it up, get out.
2006-11-08 01:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by richy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it relies upon on the type you asked her. It sounds such as you have been treating her ok. Any lady could prefer to be dealt with like that! yet while she blows up over something so little, for sure there's somewhat greater to it. She appeared like she went rapidly on the protective that could mean that she has something to cover. If it particularly is easily what is going on and you purely asked her right, i could say permit her be. She desires to settle on what's maximum severe to her. a woman who's pleased with yet another guy should not be texting her ex. i think of it particularly is extremely infantile. If she grew to become into with you thoroughly (recommendations physique and soul) then she does no longer even care with reference to the ex and in spite of if that they had purely a friendship (that may in some cases take place) she does no longer have freaked out once you puzzled her. i think of you're able to do greater desirable- or purely await her to return to her senses. according to risk she desires a while to evaluate what's maximum severe. Sorry with reference to the affection problems! good success!
2016-10-03 10:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, Communication is the biggest thing in a relationship. If you can't talk to him and tell him how you feel then there may be problems. I would be upset too, but I would tell him how I feel, just be careful with your tone. Men hear a totally different tone when it comes to stuff like that. In most mens thinking, they say no wrong. My suggestion is to talk to him and see how he reacts more than your reaction.
2006-11-08 01:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by Bridgett D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he though he was being good in noticing you. some men just dont. If it is p...ing you off just tell him that it is not appreciated and you are an individual and you can worry about your own figure Thankyou very much. Alternatively you could tell him he has gained a few pounds himself and put it down to your own good cooking ( yeh I"m female and 5' nothing)
2006-11-08 01:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by glasgowgone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you sad or mad? U should never let a man (boy in your case ) judge ur body I am 5'3" and 160 lb. in all the right places, so i know u have a cute little frame.
2006-11-08 01:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by itsme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to let it go unless he keeps mentioning it - he may not have understood how much it would affect you. If he does it again just let him know that you are quite comfortable with your weight and if he isn't then it is his problem.
2006-11-08 01:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I count in metric system, so I dont know what height and weight you are.
but basically if you are fat, eat less and exercise
if you are normal or slim, just dont listen to him.
b yourself
Come on, why did you believe in yourself so much ? Maybe you were beeing too proud, so he kind of settled you down for your own good.
this is not important, there is so many things in life, which truly mather !!!
oh boy.
someone tells me, my haircut looks bad. well, what the **** ?
2006-11-08 01:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by Martin the baby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man i would be pissy too.....
Tell him how he made you feel, and ask him if it is a problem, just remember you are beautiful no matter what!
2006-11-08 01:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋