If a man wasn’t used to buying things for girl, even doesn’t like shopping.
He didn’t give me a birthday card and he explained that he always forgets
All friends’ birthday. I knew he is quite old fashion way but I said to him I’m
A bit disappointed about that.
He told me that he would only remember his mom’s birthday.
“Fine, because she is important woman in your life.” I said.
I thought he doesn’t care about me at all and doesn’t like me than I do.
Before I thought we have been got on so well. So, I told myself don’t waste time on him anymore.
But later, he went to the shop and bought me a birthday card to put on the door.
Why he didn’t give to me directly? And does this mean he likes me or just
doesn’t want to upset me? I don’t know what does he thinking?
2006-11-08 01:16:41 · 15 answers · asked by Judy W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget his birthday and see how he likes it.
2006-11-08 01:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to be honest and please you as well. The honesty is good because it lets you see who he is and what he values most. But the card isn't the issue. The fact that it was not important to him to honor you shows that he is always going to put his mother first and you and what you want and need last. If there is this much tension now, what will it be like with this insensive man later? You know what you want from a man. Don't settle for less or you will be sorry.
2006-11-08 01:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by moose on the loose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you are upset that he didn't give you a card, now you are upset he just put the card on the door!! That is really sweet. You know, material things do not measure a persons feelings. Unfortunately other people need the gifts and hoopla to prove something to themselves. He doesn't shop, and forgets his friends birthdays and doesn't buy them cards ------but he did...FOR YOU. Doesn't that tell you anything???
2006-11-08 01:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`ve heard that one before-"I`m not a consumer".Men are generally like that.At least He got You one.They dont think it`s important in the scheme of things.Men-creature comforts,that`s it.Or feeling sorry for themselves.I`ts when You get married and they dont even know the day it happened,then You think "Hey,I don`t give a s*it either...and 15 years l8r.Funny though He always remembered mother`s day ,and got me flowers,snow-drops.That come up every year.Does He love You-that`s the important thing !? Keep it in perspective.
2006-11-08 01:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never know what someone is thinking. IF you want to know, don't be afraid to ask.
I would assume that he likes you, most men especially if they don't like to shop wouldn't go out of their way.
Also, if he is forgetful about dates, there's nothing wrong with hinting when that time arises again next year.
Bye the way... Happy Birthday!
2006-11-08 01:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by MsElainious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's shy by the sounds of it! Putting a card on the door is kind of cute, plus he probably didn't want to give it to you in person because he's timid! Tell him (in person) you thought it was really sweet and then get chatting!?
2006-11-08 01:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by mishmash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's probably a nice guy, and just being truthful. If he said he'd remember your birthday, and then didn't, you'd really be hurt. Maybe these kind of things aren't important in his mind. I don't think my Dad ever gave my Mom cards, but He loves her more than life itself.
The fact that he put one under your door means that he is trying to please you, even if it is out of the ordinary to him.
2006-11-08 01:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by lisa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you were important he would have gotten you a card and a gift, the fact that you got one left at the door just means he does not to be in a fight about it. Dump him
2006-11-08 01:19:17 · answer #8 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he didn't like you he woudn't have gone through all tha trouble of going to the shop and buying you a card. he probly didn't want to give it to you directly coz he felf guilty. he plobly didn't kno it ment so much to you that he gives you a card.
just say your sorry for over reacting and thank him for the card and the effort!
2006-11-08 01:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by ladybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact he got you the card shows he likes you-the fact he didn't give it to you himself was probably just down to him feeling a bit embarrassed.
2006-11-08 01:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he really does have a bad memory and felt guilty at forgetting. Too ashamed or coy to give it by hand.
2006-11-08 01:18:49 · answer #11 · answered by brianthesnailuk2002 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋