she loves me i don't love her!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-08 01:14:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that's hard but rather than prolong her agony, just be honest and tell her about your feelings. I'm sure you're man enough to her hurt honestly than mislead her with lies
2006-11-08 01:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Saltbreaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, no matter what you do your going to be the asshole in this situation just because of that simple fact. There really is no easy way of doing it, but just tell her that you dont think the relationship will work out because you did a lot of thinking and realized that there were other things in your life you want to accomplish, and your not ready for a serious relationship with her. Dont make a billion excuses, find one or two and stick to them or else you will just seem like your flaking out. If you havent been going out for very long just say that you think she is rushing things. It really all depends on the type of relationship you have and how old you are.
2006-11-08 09:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where can I start, well you have to look at her side of the story and your too, at the same time you don't want to break her heart bad, but at the same time yoy don't want to rush into anything and I feel you, first thing you need to do is talk to her face to face( a real man don't dump a girl over the phone) and tell her how you feel, that you is not ready for a serious relationship and that you need time to yourself, be considerate of her feelings and understand what she has to say, don't just throw it on her at one time because it will really break her heart, because mines got broken the same way, so know what you gonna say before you say it, good luck.
2006-11-08 09:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. I am the same way right now. In the past have have tried dragging it out and waiting until she gets tired of me, but i don't think that is the way to go. I think you need to just break down and tell her. Sure, she will tear you apart for a little bit, but do it politely and tactfully as to not get yourself a bad reputation. Don't engage in name calling or anything. If she yells at you, just let it go. Trust me, it will be better in the long run.
2006-11-08 09:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jon C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's very tough. She'll be hurt no matter how you do it, but you have to if you don't love her. Try to let her down as easily as you can. You'll need to get up the nerve, of course, and when you do, tell her you're not sure that you and she are meant for each other, and you both need to start dating others to find out, to be sure. Tell her you have been feeling smothered lately, and you don't want to be tied down to only one person. Whatever you say or do, be strong. End it - don't let her talk you into sticking around. It'll only hurt her for longer.
2006-11-08 09:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pure honesty mixed with niceness. Its better to tell her now instead of making her believe that you love her. She might hate you at first but will appreciate that you were honest with her later on (hopefully Lol). A weight will be lifted off your shoulders and by doing this you may have avoided the infamous "woman's scorn."
2006-11-08 09:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sonyja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't really love her you need to let her know,don't lead
her on any longer, the longer you lead her on the worse the
effects will be to her in the end.I'm pretty sure that you are an
honest guy,be honest with her after all you owe her that much
good luck
2006-11-08 09:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by D lightfully Blessed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU BE NICE ABOUT IT!
Don't be mean just sit her down say at a park and just be open and honest tell her that you care about her but don't LOVE her. Just don't lie or be a jerk just be decent about it. WE all have feelings and I'm going to tell ya if she does love you she will be very upset so just be considerate of her feelings and it will be ok.
2006-11-08 09:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her then, of course she will be heartbroken, but she will get over it. Heartbreak only makes a person stronger, not to mention that no one wants to be with someone who doesn't want to be with them. Just make sure that you really do want to break it off with her, cause if it turns out into a mistake she's not going to want you back.
2006-11-08 09:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by pudgie39759 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her. You'll hurt her feelings. Perhaps you can try to stay away from her. Avoid being in areas where she is likely to be. After some time, she will get on with her life.
2006-11-08 09:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by prighas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SINCE SHE LOVES YOU, YOU CAN'T BE HARSH ON HER. YOU TWO WILL HAVE TO SIT AND TALK TO EACH OTHER, BE REALLY OPEN ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS AND TELL HER WHY YOU WANT TO BREAK UP WITH HER.SHE CAN'T BE IN LOVE WTH BYSELF. MAYBE YOU GUYS CAN BE FRIENDS, IF SHE TAKES IT THE WRONG WAY, THEN SHE JUST MISSED OUT ON A GOOD FRIENDSHIP AND SHE PROBABLY DIDN'T REALLY LOVE YOU.
2006-11-08 09:25:21 · answer #11 · answered by PHILLY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋