My guy is good looking,friendly and also a cop(which i think draws women to him). Anyway,at least four women(that i know of)fancy him and i wasnt too bothered at first because he made it clear to me that he's only interested in me but there is this one women who is very flirty with him all the time and she is going to be sitting on the desk next to him soon while the other work colleague is off. She also keeps bugging him about going to her house and do some decorating work for her,i know she's after him even though she knows he's seeing someone. We dont want people from work to know we're dating because they are the biggest gossipers going but also how am i gonna cope at the christmas work dinner when she is bound to be flirting with him?
2006-11-08 01:11:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Laugh..... you have a secret!!!! and its you hes going home with!!!
2006-11-08 01:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, there is a saying which goes "A handsome guy, is EVERY girls guy" or something to that effect, and i suppose, not a very comforting thought if you're dating a good looking guy, not only that, but he is friendly and a seemingly good person.
What nags at me is that you've both decided to keep it secret. Who's idea was this? I think perhaps you've both thought at some point, that its a good idea because IN CASE it doesnt work out, you can both walk away without being "old news".
However, i wonder how you know about these women, does he tell you, or do you work together?? if he tells you, are you sure its not simply to make you jealous, or if you work together, perhaps its time you made it public so that other women are not mislead into thinking he's single. (usually women flirt with single guys because...errrm, they're single?) In this case one could hardly blame them for their having been mistaken about his "status"...
Stamp out the ambiguity, let it be known you're "an item" what's the point of having a relationship if its "an undercover one"...if u want to be together its for social pleasure as well as the rest, how can you enjoy the Christmas dinner depriving yourself of your guys company "because of gossip". Sod the gossip, live your life. People come and go, relationships are aimed at being lasting, now is as good a time as any to let everyone know you're together, better still, suggest to him that the two of you go dressed colour schemed together on the Christmas work dinner party, and then, pardee hard girl!
2006-11-08 09:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - you have two choices here:
you either keep the fact you two are quiet and have to live with the worry of how this woman is behaving with your man and live in a state of upset and constant wondering about whats happening and what shes doing
OR
ye bite the bullet and go public - sure you'll prob get a slagging for a week but it will soon be old news - and in the longterm you can feel a lot better about things because this flirting will hopefully back off and you can have a contented feeling again.
Gossip only lasts for a short time - and in the long run i think its better - for you - that people know your man is off bounds.
xx
2006-11-08 09:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there are people out there who will stop at nothing to try and lure in a man (or woman.) Women are very good at manipulating. I think you really really have to trust him on this one. You know in your heart how into you he is. If he talks about her all the time you should be worried but if he treats you the same as before she started getting heavy with him then don't worry too much. The worst thing you can do is question him about it on a regular basis because he'll eventually get fed up and conclude that if you believe he's going to cheat on you, then he might as well!
2006-11-08 09:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your boyfriend about this? Seems like the Christmas dinner would be a good time for him to announce to his colleagues that you are his girlfriend. Would you rather sit apart from him and have his flirty colleague smooth talk him all night or sit next to him and advertise the fact that you are together? You can't have it both ways...
2006-11-08 09:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Chris C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should let people know you're dating. You should one day come to his work, bringing him one of his favorite meals for lunch/dinner. You should stay there for a while. Make sure every woman in that office knows you are together. That one woman should back off, if she happens to approach, lean over to your bf and give him a kiss. then tell him, instead of going to that silly work dinner why don't we celebrate christmas at our place? Even if yall don't live together you should get him to go along with it. that will keep them away.
Good luck
2006-11-08 09:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was and still am popular at work, but I only have eyes for my wife who works where I do. If your bf loves you like he says he does then it shouldn't be a problem. He should tell her that he is seeing someone but thats all he needs to say. I have friends in the force and they say the exact thing "gossipers". Try and rise above it, talk to your bf b4 hand and tell him again how you feel, and hopefully he'll undrstand your concerns.
I hope it works out for you.
2006-11-08 09:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by BigD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're also a co worker of his? if you want it kept a secret, it sounds like you're doing a good job of keeping it under wraps. otherwise, i seriously doubt your flirty co-worker would be doing that right under your nose! either decide to tell people or don't be surprised at the unwelcome attention your fellow receives when his significant other isn't around! it's not right but i bet the ladies would back off if they knew you two were together!
2006-11-08 09:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by green eyed sole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him that he will not succumb to her advances. Anyway,she sounds a bit pushy and over flirty despite knowing he's with someone-so he probably doesn't have much in the way of respect for her anyway!
2006-11-08 09:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares about gossipers? let them talk. Go plant a big kiss on your man in front of this woman then smile at her. I always catch women checking out my man so I'll grab his bum or kiss him and just smile at them. There's no better feeling then knowing you have what someone else wants desperately and knowing they are never going to get it!
2006-11-08 09:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Ring Ring Ring Bananaphone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell her straight to back off your man or else..tell her everyone is laughing at her as your guy is so sweet to wierdos and can't shake her off. make fun of her and she'll stop it. don't tell your guy what you're up to..they all think we're psychos anyway. lucky you to get the chance to give her a telling off. police women have a bad reputation and you're right to feel offended. I've had a woman texting my guy offering him sex and he doesn't know who it is..it really upset him and I can't confront her to give her the pasting she'll get if i find out. get tough
2006-11-08 09:15:49 · answer #11 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋