How can I put I want money and no gifts on my Wedding invitations w/o offending ppl?

Question

I'm getting married in May and I don't want people go bring gifts. I was wondering if anyone had a cute or clever (and nice) way of putting "no gifts just money please"... Help!!??!?!

I am not trying to be cheap or vulgar!.... But, I have been with my fiancee for 5 years and we're pretty set with all we need. I would find it greedy to try and replace things I already have. I like my things and think it's not necessary to register. Please don't be rude. I am obviously asking for a tasteful way to do things... I'm not looking to get bashed!

Answer 1

"Our home is quite complete now
We've been together long
So please consider our request,
And donot take us wrong.
We would prefer your presence,
Rather than your presents.
A wishing-well we thought would be great,
but only if you want to participate"

Put an old-fashioned wishing-well on a stand alone table with a guest book. That way people can remain anonymous with the amount of money, & still write their well wishes to you & your groom.

Hope your special day is special.

Answer 2

Mentioning anything in regards to gifts on the wedding invitation or including anything of this nature with the invitation is a BIG etiquette no no.

Plus some people just don't feel comfortable with that. So I would tell you parents and your bridal party that you prefer money because you are pretty much set. This is something that should be spread via word of mouth. This is the proper way for it to be done anyways.

Even if someone knows that you prefer cash, they still might not be comfortable giving you cash and will want to get you a gift anyways. Because of this I would recommend registering at one place (at store that is both online and physically in range of your guests). You don't have to put a lot on the registry and can even include gift cards for the particular store. This will make your older guests feel more comfortable, because with their generation you didn't give money (grandma will be happy with you). Or you could just register for a honeymoon or something of that nature. I've even heard of people registering to help them get a down payment for a new house. Anyways, I'm drifting from the point here, the main thing is:

A) DO NOT put no gifts just money please on the invitation, its just plain bad etiquette
B) DO NOT mention gifts whatsoever on the invitation or send anything with the invitation, its just bad etiquette
C) Have your friends and family spread the word by mouth you prefer money
D) You might want think about registering at one store for those of your guests who aren't comfortable giving you cash. If they have no where to go they will buy you an object of some sort anyways and will probably end up with 4 toasters.
E) You don't necessarily need to create a registry for objects. You can register for a honeymoon, a downpayment on a new home, or some other non traditional thing (there are websites out there to help you with this), etc...

Congratulations!

Answer 3

You really can't do this without offending people--I find it silly that people get so easily offended, but they do. The easiest ways to get the hint out are 1. don't register and 2. tell your mom, his mom, and your maid of honor to tell people that you would prefer money to gifts when they are asked what you want. Make sure they say it in a way that doesn't make you sound greedy (although I don't think you are)...something like, "Well, they have everything they need and are just hoping to be able to buy a house...car...start a nest egg...etc. Whatever is closest to the truth.

If someone does buy you a gift anyway, be grateful. They probably put a lot of thought into it. :-)

Good luck and congrats on your wedding!

Answer 4

There is no way to guarantee that no one will buy you a gift instead of giving money...even if you don't register. Most everyone is right, it is poor etiquette to ask for money; you generally do not ask for gifts either. (If you register you usually put a note in with Bridal Shower invitations stating where the bride is registered or guests can ask the MOB or bridesmaids).

However, if you would like money more than gifts just don't register. Most people will take this as a hint and just give money, but others are dead set on giving gifts for weddings.

If you want money for the purpose of taking a honeymoon I had a friend who had a "honeymoon registry." Guests could send monetary contributions to their travel agent and that helped alleviate what they had to pay for their honeymoon.

Congrats on your upcoming marriage!

Answer 5

You're funny! Asking for money is poor etiquette. In fact, mentioning gifts on the invitations AT ALL is poor ettiquette.

What you do is print the invitations out without mentioning gifts. Then let your mom and a few close friends know that you want money and not gifts. They will spread the word for you. That doesn't mean people will listen, though.

BTW, at a lot of weddings I have been to, there have been nice little displays where people could just put envelopes with money. And my husband likes when weddings have "dollar dances", where you give the bride a bill and you get a dance.

Answer 6

Hey Girl. I was interested in your question because I was wondering the same thing. Here's what I would like to know. For all the people that say it's rude to ask for money instead of a present. Aren't the people you invited to your wedding supposed to be you close friends and family? So why would they be offend if you asked them for money? I'm with you girl! I have no idea what to do either and the answers you got we're no help at all. The only answer that looked helpful at all was the one girl who said do a honeymoon registry. That sounds like a good idea. Well I guess you and me are the only ones out there that think our family and friends should NOT get offend if we ask them for money. Well congrats and good luck!

Answer 7

You don't., you shouldn't and you can't , you WILL offend people and it is very rude....... you do not use your wedding invitation to ask for money or any kind of gifts for that matter. It is tacky and you will be talked about. You are asking these people to come and celebrate a wonderful time in your life, not to finance it. You might as well be sending invoices instead of invitations.


Your ONLY way you can help in your endevor is to not register anywhere and let your parents and family pass it around by word of mouth.


Do not ask for money or gifts, a gift is just that : A GIFT...........it is done out of thought and love, not out of obligation or because they are being asked to.



Think about how it would sound:


Please join us in celebrating in our lives joining as one......oh by the way we want money.

It doesn't matter how you word it, the message comes accross loud and clear.

Answer 8

There's not a nice or tackful way of saying it. If you truly do not want to be greedy, simply do not register and do not ask for gifts. Explain to your guests that you've been together and have everything, you simply request their presense. Some will give you money anyway, and those who refust to give money will give you a gift anyway. Others will simply give you nothing, but you've offended no one this way.

Answer 9

We're not bashing, just letting you know that what you are thinking of doing is totally rude, crass and without taste. It isn't the "fault" of the guests that you have all the household items you need - so you shouldn't be laying that on them. If you don't want gifts, say so politely. But don't ask for money! That is just crude.

Answer 10

This type of request is best relayed for a shower. If someone is giving you a shower a money tree works well in that type of situation. Word of mouth should take it from there.

Or, you could register for the above and beyond stuff, starting from the $5,000.00 and up range, and then people might stick a $50 in your card so they don't have to buy the hovercraft you registered for! :o)

Answer 11

You can't include that in your invitations without being offensive.
If you do not want gifts you should list that on your invites, and maybe some people will offer $$, or you can kinda "put the word out" through friends and family. But asking for money is extrememly tacky and would take away from the class of a wedding ceremony.