My ex of three months from summer of 2005 is still in touch with me via text message. We broke up because he just runs a mile when things get serious with a girl or so he claims. He text me last Monday asking how I was etc. I ignored the text, then last Saturday Night, he text me again, asking why I didnt reply etc. It basically came down to me telling him I have to move on and asked him why he was still in touch. He said he liked me alot and would like to be a with a woman with my personality but gets scary around women when things look serious. He text me last night about something else and also told me his sister had twins. Im finiding all these messages confusing, he doesnt want commitment but yet he cant seem to let go of me fully either.
2006-11-08 01:00:23 · 13 answers · asked by sunny01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I experienced this situation and I found it real hard to be just a frind after being a lover ..so to not feeling like this just ignore and delete him ...But its up to you ..I just think this way you atleast feel relaxed .
2006-11-08 01:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not making a fool out of you, but he is playing games with you. You clearly want commitment, or a relationship that has the potential to become something serious & that is ok! It's just not going to happen with this boy. You have to be the strong one & put an end to this, don't reply to his text messages. Don't give in if he gets nasty. Just ignore him. & look for someone else who will commit to you. You deserve that. Good-luck.
2006-11-08 01:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by girls_lie_too_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand fully. He has a free spirit, committed for a time only.. Do not like to feel controlled/tied down. He will love you but will never marry you and if he does he will not live with you for long. You know the pattern so do not allow him to come in again with any expectations of you being his 'baby mother'. Understand. No intimacy. You will regret it.
2006-11-08 01:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always easy er to keep coming back to what you know than forge forward into the unknown! Was you and him friends before you became lovers?If so maybe he feels that you are still a friend to him! and actually ex,s can be the best of friends! just be straight with him and ask him what his intentions are and if its truly genuine than maybe friends is a good thing! but be honest with yourself and if you can,t be friends with him right now tell him! be the bigger person and make the clean break!
2006-11-08 01:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by TJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still into you. He realizes he made a mistake. He's afraid of commitment but he really likes you and isn't sure how to handle it but he knows he made a mistake losing you and it's driving him crazy. He's not making a fool out of you but he is slowly going into whipped territory. Take him back or give this guy closure. lol
2006-11-08 01:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Masta Batang Dollar Billz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite obvious that he has fallen for you. I think he is just worried about all the responsibilities that accompany a good and steady relationship especially if he thinks it is going to be long-term. Give him some time - he will finally decide once and for all.
2006-11-08 01:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by prighas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be with a woman with YOUR personality, but not you? He is a runner and that's his m/o (method of operation)...if you want to move on...it is the smart thing to do...just don't bother sending him anymore messages...eventually he'll get the message.
2006-11-08 01:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me last year. I realized he didn't love me, and he only loved the thought of being with someone LIKE me. There's a biiiiig, harmful difference.
2006-11-08 01:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Arf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, he's trying to get your attention...he realized what a damn fool he was to let a fantastic girl such as you, go...but, since you said that you want to move on, why don't you just do it? and what if he's pressing advantages to be your friend instead? look in your heart...and just believe
2006-11-08 01:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by chinggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is making a fool of himself, and maybe he thinks if he keeps in touch, and doesn't find something better he wants to keep you 'there' since you might be the one...someday.
Tell him your getting married. :))
2006-11-08 01:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by Hatem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋