...and I thought things were going pretty well. We hit it off and went on a first date, then saw each other pretty much every other day up until last Friday (11/3) and the days we didn't see each other we talked on the phone. We went out on Friday, dinner, movie, etc... and then he came back to my house and we hung out some more. We ended up falling asleep and he left around 4am. We text messaged a little bit on Sunday and he mentioned that he had a really busy week at work and wouldn't be available to get together again until this Thursday, but that he'd call me on Tuesday night to make plans. So, I didn't hear from him yesterday, and I'm just wondering if I should be concerned. Is it strange to spend so much time together and then to just... stop? Do you think he really is just busy? Should i call him? If yes, when? I don't usually question myself over guys, but I feel like there's something different about this one. Oh yeah, we're not "young", I'm 29 & he's 35.
2006-11-08 00:56:55 · 13 answers · asked by sommerluvn77 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The same thing happened to me after 2 weeks. We got along so well, he was very affectionate, so happy, then he started pulling away. Everything I have read since then and everything he ended up telling me is saying the same thing.......start out slow, don't spend everyday together at first.........don't even call everyday. Guys especially get scared off by this. Here they were single and free to do what they wanted, and then instead of slowly being brought into a relationship, they are now feeling they "have to" call u after work, they all of a sudden feel they have this full-fledged relationship on their hands. So no my advise is not to call him right now. Show him u are not going to start thinking something is wrong just because he doesn't contact u everyday. He has to see he still has his life even though he has met u now. Learn from my mistake and give him that time. I hope it all works out for u. :-)
2006-11-08 01:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a game that guys play its the wait so many days and then call you crap. This is what I say play a little hard to get dont let this get to ya if he knows you have feelings for him he'll just use it against you.Dont call him, no emails,no text either. Let him make the move he said HE would call you right? Then let him but if by chance he doesnt say by Friday then I would say that he's not into a relationship yet and that he's not that busy to take 2 seconds out of his life to call to say hi or whatever NO ONE is really. RIGHT??
2006-11-08 01:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look what has happened to you is you have become involved with a player. Right now he probably feels like you are wanting some type of committment. I know how guys play these silly little games, just like the ladies play their silly little games. Look if he really liked you as much as he said he would have called you every night. Don't get too much of your feelings involved, because I have news for you, if you do you are going to get your feelings hurt. Look right now is a good time for both of you to move on because I can tell you this relationship is not meant to be. Don't worry you will find someone that really likes you and wants to develop a meaningful relationship. Life will go on.
2006-11-08 01:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him. It won't hurt anything. I'm in the same boat. I don't see my man until the wekends, but we talk on the phone every night. He is very busy and so am I, and this seems to work out good so far. Just let him have his space and see what happens, guys do not like to be smothered or maybe he feels the same as you do..just call him up and see what happens.
2006-11-08 01:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait till Thursday, then if he hasn't rung give him a call and ask how his week has been, i say you will be able to tell how he feels by the way he acts on the phone then you will know if he is still interested or just busy like he says!
2006-11-08 01:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a question for you, did you sleep with him that night when you mentioned he slept over? If you did, maybe that's all he wanted but, if you didn't maybe he just want to take things a little slower. My advise to you is to be careful not to fall in love with him to fast and to make sure he shares the same feeling as you.
2006-11-08 01:15:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should call him and talk to him...ask him how he is doing and how he feels....then mention that he didnt call and secretly plan a day this week to make him dinner and surprise him...i think he would love that and be extremely grateful....and who knoes? maybe he isn't "busy"....me may just be too embarresed to tell you a lil secret about him..like maybe he does something and he might not want you to knoe because you might not like it....but good luck =]
2006-11-08 01:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by iiiloveemichael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
different how? like he has another family different or different like he might be the one? I'd say relax take it slow and if says he's busy wait if he likes you he will call if not you don't need him.
2006-11-08 01:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by space case 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he could really be busy..
He could also have another g/f or wife on the side...
Give him a call...
2006-11-08 00:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid of moving too fast. Sometimes these things develop a momentum of their own.
2006-11-08 01:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋