Any young moms ??

Question

I was jus wunderin whether there where any young moms who had planned there pregnancy and whether there partner has stayed by them, and was it was difficult telling your family and was it it difficult bringing up your child??

I am 17 good job me and my fiance ave been 2geva a year 4 months he does bar wrk @ w/e's and has hiz own house , good idea / bad idea ??

Answer 1

I had my first child when I was a senior in high school. During spring break actually LOL

The father stuck by me, he had purchased his own home the fall I started my senior year. I moved in when I graduated. We are now married and have 4 children together.

It was ficculcult telling our families. We didn't tell them until the end of January and my son was born in April. We struggled at times, but we stuck it out and we are doing great together now. I had a lot of support from my mom and that made a huge difference to me.

Answer 2

I was 20 when I got pregnant, 21 when my daughter was born. My husband was 23. My husband & I had been married over a year when we found out we were pregnant, it was not a planned pregnancy, however, we were both very happy about becoming parents, it was a nice surprize. Telling our family was not difficult, it was fun. We have now been together for almost 6 years and married almost 3 years. Raising our child is so much fun. We are trying for our second child and plan to have 3 kids.
I feel age doesn't matter, maturity matters. If you and your partner (whether you are married or not) feel like you are ready to have a child and you are ready to make a life long commitment to each other, and are financially stable, then go for it! I have a relative who got pregnant when she was 18 by her boyfriend, who was 20, they stayed together and are getting married in the Spring. They are/were very mature and handled the situation very well even though they were very young. So that goes to show it doesn't matter if you are 18 or 28 you have to be mature enough to handle the situation you are put in. I wish you luck in what ever you do!

Answer 3

Bad idea. You are way too young and immature to handle a family. It's hard enough as an adult. I can't see how a 17 year old can have that good of a job to be able to afford everything life will throw at you especially with a child.

You really should continue your education and wait so you can give a child the very best. A child on average costs $7,000 a year and that does not include many things.

Answer 4

I am 21 and I have a 9 month old son. I love him to death, but I wish sometimes that we were older. It was an unplanned pregnancym and it was very difficult to tell my family. My mom cried, and didn't talk to me for a few days. My dad took it better than she did.

We are living in the apartment under my mom and dad now, and it is still very difficult. We are planning to be married in September, but we will not have our own house for who knows how long. He works full-time and I work part-time, because the cost of child care is more than I would make in the full-time jobs available to me in my area. My grandma can care for my son some days, and those are the days I work.

Take advice from people who have been there, and do not plan a pregnancy now. At very least, wait until you are married and living together.

Answer 5

Well I am 19 almost 20... I have been with my husband for 5 years. I am 12 weeks pregnant with our first child. Which was kind of planned... we talked about it, didnt use condoms or any other type of birth control, but never really set a date. I am currently working and going to school for nursing which I finish In 6 months. He has graduated college may I add he is 25.... His grandparents gave us a house to live in for free, so we dont really have much to worry about,but still if i were you i would wait a little bit longer maybe 5 years. Children change your life COMPLETELY! You are only 17.... I am only 20 and when I look back at 17, i still had alot to learn, and still do.... you really should wait, but its all based on how mature you both are! Good luck

Answer 6

I was 18 when I got pregnant with my first child.It was not a planned pregnancy but we took no precautions to stop it from happening so we knew if it did it did. We did get married and are still married today after 13 years. Let me tell you though it was not an easy road to travel. Being young parents is not easy but it can work if you are invested in the relationship.

Answer 7

hi im 22 but i was 20 when my daughter was born she was not planned but her father who is only 20 has stood by me we have been together for nearly 5 years which is good considering our ages it wasnt hard for me to tell my mum i was pregnant as she made me do the test but i didnt tell my dad i left that to my step mum because i just knew my dad wouldnt approve of it. my daughter is nearly two and it has been somewhat difficult but not all like last night we didnt get to bed until 5am because she was up all night crying she wouldnt have a bottle she wouldnt watch tv she just wanted to be held this has never happened before. I think its not always easy to raise a child but its not always smooth sailing either you take the good with the bad and happy with the sad. long nights are death teething isnt fun but the first time they crawl talk and walk is so exciting you forget about all the other things and just be thankful you have them in the first place...

Answer 8

I was 17 when I had my son who is now 12. It was not planned.
The father gets visitation but rarley is he there during the visitation so his mother does it all for him.

Bringing up a child is hard regardless of what age but luckly I did have supported parents. I was able to finish high school and go to college.

Answer 9

i had my first child at 19 and my second at 23. it was very hard to tell my family but they ultimately accepted both kids. my husband is the father of both and we have been together for six years. so there are some men who stay. financially we still struggle but just remember they are worth every penny. the love is more important than money.

Answer 10

well, I'm not young anymore... I got pregnant with my first child when I was 21. It was not planned and the father was not around. My family was suportive and yes it can be difficult at times, but it's worth it to make the sacrifices nessesary to make sure you are being the best parent you can be.