We all been there and hurt, but is or why is is harder to give that next person our trust as much as we gave the last one?
2006-11-08 00:40:21 · 12 answers · asked by Arthur D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes it is harder...we do it bc were afraid that if we give the next person our trust that the same thing is gonna happen...it sucks to have ur heart broken...bc it makes u wiery in the rest of relationships to come...once that trust is broken...u put a wall up...thats the only way we know how to protect our hearts from **** like that...
2006-11-08 00:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have been hurt it for most people very hard to trust anyone, I know I have been there and it was very hard for me to trust ..It took me a long time before I opened myself up like that to trust anyone and that also goes for relationships too! And yes the other person that walks into your life not knowing what is going on is walking into a hornets nest because he doesn't know how badly you have been hurt so what happens he doesn't even get a chance to treat you right because you have this wall up now and you won't let anyone in..The real reason why it is harder this time around is because of the pain you felt and that you don't really want to feel that pain again...And technically I don't blame a person who wants to protect themselves from being hurt again, it is not a good feeling.
2006-11-08 00:50:49 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True in a way, but don't let what an ex did effect your new relationship. She or he might be the best thing that could have happen to you. If you see signs of what caused the previous relationship to go south, maybe you should bring it to their attention. But always give the next person a chance. In time you will get over the pain and love again. I really wish you good luck.
2006-11-08 00:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Cowgirl Joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we were hurt. You shouldn't go into another relationship with those feelings. You shouldn't get involved with another person until you are sure you can trust again, its not fair to the new relationship. Take time for yourself be single for a while and when you are sure of what you want and what you DON'T want - you are ready to start anew!
2006-11-08 00:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
particular, if something happend to my husband i might think of i may be somewhat careful. there is too many weirdos & ax murderers obtainable, i might desire i does no longer be desperate & only take a wager. been there completed that & my x suggested he ought to no longer stand going residing house each nighttime to the comparable lady & " I would desire to have some stray!" How does that sound? I felt in melancholy, He took all my coronary heart & I questioned what replaced into incorrect with me, why he left. & It replaced into the 2d time i might married the guy! fool me as quickly as, ya comprehend. So i'm hoping from previous history , i does no longer rush into something would desire to something ensue. i do no longer % to advance previous on my own, yet additionally i don t % to be some physique 's stomping floor the two. Does that make sense?
2016-10-21 11:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arthur, that is the way to approach life. A friend of mine will always say: "if you close your eyes cos most people around you are wicked, you'll be surprised that you will surely miss the time a very nice person will also pass bye" Think about this always and make it your watch-word. Cheers!
2006-11-08 00:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i dont agree with u i believe tht every other person is different and have a very exclusive personality and traits so it is a littlle harder to trust somebody but not impossible. try to judge the person on his own exclusive traits .
2006-11-08 00:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by dax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although it is hard you have to give the new person the benefit of the doubt...start with a clean slate...paranoia will just cause issues ....i have been hurt b4 but I start a new relationship with trust unless they give my a concrete reason not to..besides if you have any doubt about someone why start a relationship with them
2006-11-08 00:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Janet F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of 100 percent, you will only give 95 percent in your next relationship. Every failed relationship takes a little something from us.
Unconsiously, we are protecting ourselves.
2006-11-08 01:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, but you must try to remeber that this next person is not the last person. If you don't try, it will never work.
2006-11-08 00:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by Floss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋