known my ex since last year November, started dating in feb, yesterday he says he is not putting in 100% and it would be unfair, and there is a lack of chemistry on his side. he likes haning out with me and chatting and he has liked me for a long time, but it is just not going forward as a relantionship. He has never had a serious relationship in his 28 years, just flings and i told him i don't do flings.
what does he mean by he doesn't feel any chemistry, when i know he was attracted to me
2006-11-08 00:20:54 · 14 answers · asked by chic2081 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well that mostly means that he doesn't have alot of feeling for this relationship.
2006-11-08 00:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by drtmvs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like most men he probably has a physical attraction for you and beyond that he has a big empty zone not knowing what love really is.
If he's never had a serious relationship by the time he's 28, that indicates to me that he still isn't settled with himself on what he wants out of love.
The only way to resolve that is to determine how strong his family ties are. Until he values them more, he's still going to lean towards being a wanderer within his own emotions.
2006-11-08 00:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he means is that he's attracted to you physically, but you two don't connect emotionally. It all boils down to you and him not being compatible. I know you probably didn't want to hear this, but i'm just trying to give my honest opinion. There are so many other great and fine looking guys out there. If he's not into you then chalk it up and keep moving foward. It doesn't mean that something's wrong with you, or your not good enough. It just means that you two are not for each other. Your true partner is out there elsewhere.
2006-11-08 00:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i AM NOT A GUY BUT HE IS TRYING TO TELL YOU IN A NICE WAY THAT HE DOES LIKE YOU BUT MORE AS SOMEONE TO HANG OUT WITH, AND NOT AS A PARTNER OR GIRLFRIEND. He doesn't feel that tickle in his belly or miss you when you are not around. He thinks that it would be better left as friends. I know you may have thought he liked you and maybe he did, but like you said, he does FLINGS AND YOU DON"T!!!!
He may have committment issues that you just aren't able to understand nor him. and one day, he will meet that perfect someone, and will get done the same way.
Remember this..............
what goes around comes around.
At least he is being honest, and you are not married, and have kids. and he decides to leave all of you. Be his friend, and let him know you care, but he is telling you how he feels, and you need to respect that ya know.
Sometimes, they say LOVE HURTS!!!!!
Remember.....................
TRUE LOVE DOES NOT AND MAYBE THIS ISN'T THE LOVE YOU THOUGHT??????
GOOD LUCK,
DAPHNE
2006-11-08 00:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said he does not have any chemistry when it comes to you. Well, he is telling you already that he does not want to have a relationship with you. Men knows who they want to be with right from the start. I don't think its hard for you to answer this question for yourself.
2006-11-08 00:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Cowgirl Joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is attracted sexually - but not emotionally. So the relationship is not going to end in a happy ever after, marraige or anything like that. You don't do flings - so it's over.
2006-11-08 00:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mike10613 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this means that he is used to have flings not an real relationship so it would be hard for him to go into an real relationsships.
2006-11-08 00:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Babez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's saying that he just doen't like you very much to start a serious relationship..
2006-11-08 00:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by cass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be better if he lied to you and told you he loves you? I've dated girls I was attracted to but didn't love, the relationship will never "grow". You should thank him for being honest.
2006-11-08 00:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"was" attracted, but not "is" attracted. this will never be more than a friendship. let it go, and try to retain the friendship. if not, so be it
2006-11-08 00:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by Heath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋