last weekend, and i just found out last night this guy took advantage of her cuz she was drunk. she told me he had 2 hickeys on his neck & they hooked up. should i go after this kid? or still be mad at my girl? she says it was a mistake and keeps saying im sorry.
im open to any suggestions.
2006-11-08 00:20:11 · 19 answers · asked by sh8dybrady120 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the hickeys thing just came out today. her sister invited the kid to come. she doesnt remember anything from that night. she keeps finding out little details like this.
2006-11-08 00:28:38 · update #1
shes agreed to let me be there when she gets drunk again.
ps- im 18, shes 16.
2006-11-08 00:36:09 · update #2
I'm sorry to hear this! First off, NO... don't go after this guy! He might not have been a "gentleman", but often men in bars aren't there to be. As for her, if you truly love her and want to work it out, try. Just think about it first. Do you think you can sleep with her without thinking about it? Can you kiss her? Is it always going to be in the back of your mind? It's your call, but you need to be honest with yourself... Good luck!
2006-11-08 00:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by zaniest1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ah darling, tough call. You have every right to still be mad with your girl and I can completely understand why you would want to go after this kid for taking advantage of your gf espesh when she was drunk, but is this going to solve anything, it might make you feel better in the short term but I don't believe in violence, I don't believe it makes things better at all! She must have been seriously drunk though to not know what she was doing. Believe me I have been extremely drunk on occasion but I have never been that drunk that I don't know my own mind!!
At the end of the day its your call my friend, if you love this girl than maybe give it another go. Tell her how let down and betrayed you feel and that if it happens again there will be no more chances. The thing with this is, if you do decided to give it another go you must leave the incident in the past or it will always come back and bite you on the as*, if you don't think you can leave it in the past you have to move on I'm afraid.
Personally I believe that everyone makes mistakes and everyone deserves a second chance but believe me if they blow the second chance with me its curtain time.
All the best and good luck ;-D
2006-11-08 00:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all both of you are young, and you both have a lot of growing up to do. This girl is 16 yrs old, if your 18 then you need to try getting someone your own age now. This girl is lying to you. I don't think anybody took advantage of her while she was drunk. She knew what she was doing, she's only telling you this because you caught her. Why didn't she tell you what happened to her when it first got done??? If someone had taken advavntage of her why wouldn't she report this guy or tell you in the begining??? She's lying that's why. You would be a fool to go after some guy over a girl. Never fight over a girl unless someone is disrespecting her right in your face, otherwise you should never do that. This girl is playing you for a fool, and your falling for it. What you need to do is dump her ASAP, and find someone your own age. Your 18 yrs old now, atleast start acting like a young man.
2006-11-08 00:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be mad at her it wasn't his fault he's she knew she was in a relationship he might not even have known about you. It wasn't that she was to drunk to remember it was that she was to drunk and didn't care. I've been wasted a lot and i know when I'm doing something wrong I just don't care at the time but there has been times that i have regretted it in the morning and of course I use that lame excuse I was drunk and didn't know what i was doing. It's a lame excuse it always has been and it always will be. Good Luck with your gf.
2006-11-08 00:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't go after the guy...that could get you into trouble. Your girlfriend couldn't have been THAT drunk to remember the guys 2 hickeys. I wouldn't waste my time or energy on either one of them.
2006-11-08 00:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why everyone uses the "I was drunk" excuse. I have been drunk so many times and I remember exactly what I was doing. She knew what she was doing when she did it. Be mad at her, not him. He is not the one who is committed to you and besides he was probably drunk when they hooked up too. unless she was passed out, she did not get taken advantage of.
2006-11-08 00:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by krystal s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well your girl shouldn't have got so drunk and she said he had two hickeys on his neck did she have any on hers. so that should tell you that she was the one sucking on his neck. it take two to tango. you need to talk to your girlfriend and find out was she too wasted or she is just making an excuse of what really happen
2006-11-08 00:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck... only you know if she is being truly honest with you so you have to try to tell from being with her if she is sorry for the incident.. As for the guy- if he was a friend- he no longer is!!! if he was not a friend- he needs to know that you were hurt and if he does not care- make him care!
I do not know how old you are but you may want to give thisrelationship some serious thoughts before too much further....
2006-11-08 00:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by P!ss Ant 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you gal had just doin a big mistake. if you after this kid what will do?does this stop you gf from stop clubbing again? if some other day another guy tak advantages on your gf because she is drunk again, what will you do? man ,your gf must know how to control herself not making problem for you.
2006-11-08 00:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be mad at her, there is no question about it. look, getting drunk is a commonly used excuse people use. however some people do get taken advantage of while drunk, but it is more likely that's not what happened. be pissed at her. what was she doing drinking with another guy, anyway.
2006-11-08 00:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋