Am so tired of feeling left out?

Question

am so tired of feeling left out.all my girlfriends are having boyfriends,i seem to get it right , all that i want is to find someone that will love me for me,not for what i have.am 22yrs and not seeing any one.am not this person that likes to jump from guy to guy.my friends call me old feshion coz i don't have one.What shuold i do to fall in love.i need to be loved by any one that is single out there,even if am far away from them

Answer 1

You can't force love and it always pops up when you are least expecting it to. Just relax and don't try so hard. Just enjoy being single for the time being. This may sound hard but when you do find someone it will be worth the wait.

Answer 2

Unfortunately desperation does not look good on anyone. Having a boyfriend is not a competition, Love will find you when you're not looking for it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having old fashioned values & you should hold your head high with pride as it is extremely admirable, you're friends should not be slagging you off for having morals, it's likely that if you are patient & dont just cling to the first guy that comes your way but wait til you find someone you really have fallen for then you will find yourself in a lasting relationship & be happy that you didnt rush to get yourself a boyfriend, be patient. I'm in an extremely loving relationship & I wasnt even look for love when I got together with the guy, I had just come out of a relationship so didnt expect to go into another relationship but I did & because I wasn't desperately looking the relationship has worked because I fell for the guy & I couldnt be happier, I know you're not in the same scenario as I was but it shows that when you're not looking for love it does find you. Good luck to you. x

Answer 3

You can't make yourself fall in love or for that matter make anyone else fall in love with you. You're putting far too much pressure on yourself. There's nothing more of a turn off than someone who comes accross as desparate! Don't listen to your friends. Some people go from relationship to relationship just to be in one, which is sometimes a sign of insecurity. You''re still very young. I think you should develop your own interests. Make the most of singledom and fulfill your dreams. Have fun. Learn something new. Concentrate on a career. When you're confident, independent and happy in your own skin you're FAR more likely to meet someone. It's a cliche but you WILL find someone when you're not looking! And don't forget, you may think that you're alone in life being a single girl, but think about all those people who are stuck in abusive and violent relationships who would love to be in your shoes but are just scared to get out!

Answer 4

I had this problem before I met the man I married.That was at 20.Before then met typical blokes ,yes at the pub.Got to meet the right person.One Your comfortable with.Feels like You never will.
You cant control whom You fall for-it just happens,and sometimes in lust.You`ll soon know when You do.Sometimes can happen pretty much instantaneously,sometimes just grows and You dont have to like obviously fancy them,or like their not Your usual type(lust).Sometimes You just end up 'following' them,as in being curious,then You end up in the middle of the maze,and it`s like,hey,how did I get here!? Then it`s like too late and they`ve captured Your heart.More spiritual stuff,wont go into that,when You actually think You can hear them calling/talking when Your sleeping!!Your not going to get many if any (soulmate ??) like that !

Answer 5

Don;t be too desperate , you are still young and like my old Mammy used to say "every Pot has a Lid", however skew it might fit. You will meet your love when you least expect it. I was not even looking for a boyfriend when i met my husband, treated the poor bugger like dirt but we have been together for several years now and we love each other aplenty. Don't worry, be happy :)))

Answer 6

What's the rush? You're only 22 and have all the time in the world to find someone who is right for you. Do things you enjoy and go to places you like and you just might find someone there to love you while you are just being yourself.

Answer 7

First of all stop trying to compete with your girlfriends. Trying to force love and friendship is a recipe for disaster. You don't have to jump from bed to bed. Just be yourself, you may have someone who is interested right under your nose, and not even see them. Believe me, it will happen.

Answer 8

I think pretty much everyone feels like this!! don't worry happiness will come along for you, and don't betray yourself by doing things you don't wanna do. You're not old fashioned for having the views you do its nice.

Answer 9

Nothin wrong with old fashioned morals i'm the same as you!
i'm not into goin from girl to girl, it's refreshing to read girls like u are still out there but where?.. x

Answer 10

You're sounding quite needy there, sure fire way to make men run. Try being a little more self reliant, love yourself for who you are.
I know it's easier to write than to do, but I think it's your best bet.