I'm only fifteen, but please listen to my story, befor you blast me for being to young
Here goes....I love her, now please dont say I'm crazy until my story is over..
Over the summer, I liked her. we seemed to talk all the time, and flirt like crazy. well she kinda backed off, and I kinda smothered her a little bit...so I gave it a while and asked her how she felt.....she said she didnt like me like that...but... a month later...she emailed me..and told me that she was really sad..cuz our friendship wastn wat it used to be ( we've been friends since age 7).. I told her it was just hard for me to get over her.....but I was working on it..and things got better, and we seem to be good friends again..but theres one problem..I love her....I just cant get over her.... I mean I want her to be happy, and if she is thats great..but, she's a huge flirt, ..and it just kills me to see her with these other guys all the time....
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but a couple of things she has said confuse me. when she said she wants our friendship back....she was talking about me moving on and getting a gf......that if I get rejected ..the reason is probably stupid.....and she also said her reason was probably stupid... but the she goes and flirts with these other guys...and I just dont want her to be a **** or sumthing...that would kill me more than anything..I am afraid to get close to anyone else, becuz I'm afraid that this wiill happen again.....and plus..well idk..i love everything about her..her smile, the way she laughs....everything..I know this isnt just another crush..cuz i have had many of those....and this isnt one of those...is there anything i can do?? please help?
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but way back 6 months ago, she told her friends she mite like me......and then she backed off ..so I know she has even the slightest feelings..and other times..I just kinda get that sense..she has thought about it..i just dont know what to do..I mean she is only 13..so I know her mind is goin crazy.but what should i do
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I mean since weve been friends for so long...we see each other every week...... i mean..i know nothing is gonna happen in the next month..but am i crazy to hope for sumthin in the next year or so?? or however long??
2006-11-08 00:12:33 · 15 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um the same thing i said yesterday to you ! ♠
2006-11-08 00:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are crazy. We feel how we feel, and if you feel like you love her, than who am I to say you don't.
I do think that you need to move on. She knows how you feel and you don't want to spend your life on the sidelines, watching everyone else be allowed to show her love but you. If she felt anything for you she would have showed it by now. Sometimes wishful thinking can go a long way. and maybe when she does somewhat respond to you you want in your heart to believe so much that she has feelings for you that you see things and emotions that are not really their. She is 13 and going through alot of changes, and so are you.
In a relationship you change and grow together, and that honey, is not what you have nor do I feel will have with her.
You deserve someone to LOVE YOU BACK!!!! and to be open and honest with you. You are only 15 and you will meet soooo many different girls in your life, and one day, when it happens, you won't have to ask for advice.
If it was real, I mean real LOVE for her, you would know. I really hope that you can find a way to move on. I do know how hard it is to love someone so much and they look thru you like you are a peice of glass. But take that as a sign. You know in your MIND that this isn't going any where. IT IS CONVINCING YOUR HEART TO LET GO THAT IS HARD!!!!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK,
DAPHNE
2006-11-08 00:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy am really sori 4 d confusion bt grow up dude u r almost an adult n u r supposed to be reading signs i mean i dnt wnt to sound rude bt she doesnt want u simple,move on stop her from making u jealous wit some small dudes,coz she is aware of wat she is doin to u so prove her wrong n check some other cute chiks u might realize u were busy digging 4 a plateof gold while theres a mine sumwea waiting 4 u jus open your eyez and dont be rude to her try n get over her and retain your friendship as much as its hard to let go....
2006-11-08 00:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to "blast" you because I know that it is possible to fall in love at 15. My parents married at a very young age and have now been married for 47 years. (No, Mom wasn't pregnant when they married). But I do have to tell you that is it VERY RARE for a person at 15 to fall in love and STAY in love with that person. I can look back over my life (I'm 46 now) and think of numerous boys I THOUGHT I was in love with. At 15 you're still growing and you and your friends are going to change over time. I could almost guarantee you that if you just opened your eyes to the other available girls and would give them a chance you would probably get over this one.
2006-11-08 00:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you've tried no one can blame you. But if she's a huge flirt, why dont you just get over her and start looking at the bigger picture here where there are better girl worth your endless devotion love. SHE on the other hand, seems to not appreciate you. I dont think she can have a real love is she keeps on flirting with so many guys...
Just think about it, you are young, yet your mature enough to realise, you should love someone who loves and appreciate you too... and I really mean it...
I wish i knew your e-mail adress...he3... you sound kinda cute already...
2006-11-08 00:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling,I know that you feel really bad now but all these feelings you have are really hurting you now, but, believe me you will fall in and out of love so many times before you find the right one for you. Your g/f is just as confused as you are! Why not just back off a little, be there for her if she needs you..... enjoy being friends.... it MIGHT develop into something more but even if it doesnt... you can never have too many firends.
2006-11-08 00:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh babe.My heart bleeds for you. I think you know you are in love but you guard. And you do so because you know you will feel the pain. Let your guard down. Lay it low and go for her. She needs you and is confused. That is why you see in her what you do. I hope this helps you. Remember no reservations. Lose yourself in her. You will be so happy. She loves you and maybe is thinking that she cant measure up to you. Prove her wrong. You will both be so happy that you did. To feel the pain of love is to have lived . And most people do find that but for whatever reason let it go and are regretful for the rest of their lives. Dont close your heart on life. Is all we can hope for is love. Good luck to you.
2006-11-08 00:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take what you can & that is friendship for now.You never know who will come into your life & make you fall madly in love.Just be there for your friend cause that is what love is all about. Keep your head up & don't be afraid to find your own happiness with someone new. Good Luck!
2006-11-08 00:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are in the friend zone, hard to get out of it. Maybe she's thought about getting out of it but hard to make it happen. Go watch the movie Just Friends. I had this happen to me back in high school. Stay friends, find a girl friend, when you have problems with the new girl friend, go and talk to the old friend and tell her you wish you could date her she's perfect, but move on. Maybe she'll get jealous.
2006-11-08 00:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by billy jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be rubbing her off the wrong way. Mixed signals for young love. She's confused too. It's been to move on and find somebody else who wants you, unless she comes up to you and tells you how she feels. Then take it from there.
2006-11-08 00:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kristen H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, the first love is always hard to get over. Keep yourself busy and quit dwelling on what you can't have right now. Who knows? In the future y'all might be able to get together for real. She is way too young to know what she wants right now.
2006-11-08 00:20:19 · answer #11 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋