how do you ask a kid to behave?

Question

5-10

Answer 1

You don't ask! You insist! If not, there are consequences.

Answer 2

Sorry but you don't ASK a kid to behave, You tell a kid to behave. You have to be the adult here. Kids need limits and rules even if they don't think so. They have to learn how to act either at home or in public. You have the responsibility to teach this to them. How else are they going to learn how to become well mannered adults? I always start with taking a favorite toy away or making them stand in the corner. If that don't work and nothing else works, and ONLY as a last resort for really bad behavior, I give them a quick swat on the bottom. Mainly to get their attention. Then, after I have their attention I explain to them WHY I done it and what behavior had to stop. It's always worked for me. But I only use it as a last resort and NEVER in anger. But you have to TELL kids what behavior is acceptable and what isn't. How else are they going to know? Hope this helps & good luck!!!

Answer 3

I agree with most of the answers about this. You TELL a child to behave, if you ask them to behave they think they have a choice of weather to or not. I find as a parent that rewarding good behaviour works a treat! I have a reward chart on the fridge and if my daughter is good she gets a point/star etc and then by the end of the week if she has all 7 stars etc she gets a treat/reward. If shes naughty we use the naughty step and take away a point/reward. Good luck. You can print off reward sheets etc from websites like crayola, or just type in reward/worksheets, i did and now i have a folder of them!

Answer 4

It all depends whose child you are referring to!!!
I don't ask my son to behave, he behaves because he has been taught to do so.
Parents seem to be too afraid or just don't care enough to discipline their kids
They need to be taught from an early age that manners and good behaviour are imperative while growing up.
My son is 5 and I am very proud to say that he is really well behaved but he is also funny and very loving.
All of these qualities can be instilled if only parents work hard with their kids from the beginning.
Parents are to blame when their kids are ill mannered rude or violent but they can be easily taken in hand with a little work

Answer 5

don't ask it amkes it seem like he or she has a choice, do i behave or do i do something different. you see,? not trying to make you feel dumb, you insist on them minding and if they do not you come down to their level, eye level and you tell him or her that if they do not there will be serious consequences. and you have to follow through with them or they will run all over you and not behave. i always used the corner, my sister did it for her 9 or 10 year old one time at a family holiday party and he behaved the whole time after that because he was embarassed by it. hope this helps. with my 5 year old he gets to stand in the corner and when it is time to come out, i make sure he understands why he was put there in the first place and if the bad behavior continues afterwards then we start taking away his favorite toys one at a time for about 4 or 5 days and then go from there or he can't do anything on the weekends. like go to his grandpas house or my moms house. hope this helped, holly

Answer 6

Asking! Like pleading or negotiating!!!!

You don't ask them to, you make them behave.

Per exemple: You have a choice, it is your choice. you act nice and stay here with us or you act naughty and you go alone in that room for a time out. Your choice now.

The kid yells back, bam! in the naughty room. 4 years old, 4 minutes. During that time you don't talk to the kid you just close the door and go away.

After a week of always being in a empty room every time he misbehave, he will improve.

My 5 years old 2 weeks ago had a bad spell in daycare and at home. Almost every day she had to go in the corner, alone. For five minutes at a time. But it was her choice. This week she his amazing and is on the Sun everyday at the daycare.

The kids are curious about everything. Social rules included. They need boundaries to feel secure and to feel protected. You are there to provide those boundaries. As much as food, love, toys, etc.....

Answer 7

You explain to them that a privilege will be taken away if they don't behave. You can also explain to them that if they behave, they will earn a privilege. It can be something like extra TV time, computer time, a treat. If you are the child's parent, I suggest that it be something that involves you. Like playing a game together. This sends a better message than just saying "here is a prize".

Remember to always praise the child for good behavior too. I believe that positive reinforcement is a much more important in promoting good behavior than simply correcting the bad behavior.

I hope this helps :)

Answer 8

NEVER ask a kid to behave because they think you're soft but dont get really mad and shout or hit... Parenting is really hard but if your child misbehaves you trell them what they're doing wrong and tell them not to do it again... if they continue to do it then take somethiong they like away. its hard when you dont know how old the child is... watch super nanny or nanny 911 or driving mum and dad mad... these programmes give great tips.

Answer 9

behaving should not be a choice, but a requirement. \

kids need to know who's in charge and they learn that by the rules/punishments that are enforced.

Answer 10

You don't ask kids to behave you tell 'em.

But make sure you're really specific. Psychologists have proved that kids struggle to process the word don't. So tell them what you want them to do rather than what you don't.

Eg if they're running screaming round the supermarket, tell them to walk next to you and talk quietly...

Give it a go - hope that helps!

:-)

Answer 11

That's part of the problem, kids shouldn't be 'asked' to behave, they should be told by an adult. Too much parenting is by discussion or by consent, asking a 3 year old if it would be nicer not to jump on the settee instead of telling them to respect furniture and not to junp on it.