my partner and i have a child. we live in a large house and have required borders to help financially. however we are now financially secure and the border we have is to old to just say goodbye to. we could wait until he passes but we will have another child at the end of the year. we just want to be family. how do we say good bye to him in a kind way
2006-11-07 23:38:30 · 12 answers · asked by bettylola69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just be honest with him and tell him that you need his room for the new child, and that you will be happy to help him look for a new place to live. Tell him that you will give him his last month free so he can use that money to help offset the cost of paying rent and probably a security deposit to move to a new place. Perhaps help him try and get into low income housing for senior citizens where he will have security and people closer to his age. If he gets too upset with your suggestion that he needs to move...drop it and tell him he can stay. Then, just work around things til he does pass away. But, don't stress him out too much or you will feel really guilty if anything does happen to him then.
2006-11-08 02:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear it is tough, but you have to make decisions for your family. What about if you help the old guy look for another place to stay and then you won't feel any guilt. Good luck!!!
2006-11-08 07:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by notProudatAll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he can be surrogate Grandpa. Someone doesn't have to be blood related to be "family". If you are having this much trouble telling hijm goodbye, maybe you already think of him as family!
2006-11-08 07:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain the situation that you need the room for the new baby and offer to help find him new accommodation.
2006-11-08 07:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should see about sub-dividing the house and have the person bording with you move into the other part...
2006-11-08 07:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what u think and tell him its time for your space you and your family are the only thing that matter look at your children and then you should know what to say they should give you the courage and the words
2006-11-08 08:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
help him find another place and explain to him you wish to just live with family in your house
2006-11-08 07:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth, and thank him for being there with you, when you need him.
2006-11-08 08:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extend him into your family. Have compassion for this elderly man. You may be all that he has.
2006-11-08 07:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't be so cruel!!
if he has been with you for a long time he feels like he is part of your family
have a heart
2006-11-08 17:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋