I seperated from my first wife cause she held out too long after our son was born, after 6 years of waiting and asking her to get help I gave up... Now I have a new relationship (37, 1 child) and a I have a deathly fear that the same thing will happen again even though I do my best to keep the interest up. I start to gt scared and flip out after a few days even though my desires are screaming as soon as I see my Girlfriend.
2006-11-07 23:20:12 · 16 answers · asked by Charlie 1967 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No definately not !! I am in my 40's and still have a very healthy and active sex life. What makes you think it will happen again ? I personally think you are being paranoid. As long as you and your girlfriend have a loving and caring relationship it will be fine.Unless you have cause to worry which l am sure you do not. Stop it right now !! You said you keep the interest up so l am sure your love life will just go on and on and on. Stop stressing or you will curse yourself. Happy Desires, all the best with your love life.
2006-11-07 23:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about it. The best way to find out if there is a problem or an issue talk is the best way to find out. there is no fast and set rule that you have to have intimacy every day. the other factor is that the g/f might be tired . If someone is too tired there is a lack of interest due to the stamina level. If the little one is young she is taking a great deal of time with the baby.
Go for the best manner possible communication is the key to all answers.
Closeness is a good way to start be kind help out and put your arm around her Show her that she is important in your life.
Romance is another key that will help you out
Give her a kiss and a hug when you come home and ask about how her day went . watch the signs of her body language to tell you if she is upset with you.
have fun and relax a little bit.
2006-11-07 23:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. I thought that women hit their sexual peak by late 30's - early 40's though. The worst thing you can do is to keep worrying about it. I do understand the fear, but worrying about it 24/7 is going to kill you dude! Chill out! If your girlfriend is happy and you are happy, then stop worrying and enjoy what you have here and now. The past is the past, leave it there. What happened with your wife may not happen with your new girlfriend, therefore you are wasting energy over nothing! LIVE FOR THE MOMENT. LIFE IS TOO SHORT. I wish you nothing but the very best! Good luck to you!
2006-11-07 23:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I may still be 14 and not know a lot about this, but in some cases, yes. It would all depend on how they feel towards you. At times, it could also be because she doesn't want to do any more of that and concentrate on living your lives together. You shouldn't just be interested in your wants and desires. You have to be considerate to your partner's wants as well. You decide as a pair, not as an individual. Try to control yourself. Occupy your mind with hobbies and things you like to do to pass time, asides from having sex. I hope this helps you, even a little bit.
2006-11-07 23:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Silver Dragon 35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax and not think too much about the past. Talk to your girl about what you are going through and maybe she will help you with this. Relationships are about partnership and that is exactly what you and her should be doing, sharing your joys and fears and everything else. If it gets too much and you feel it will harm your relationship then you will need to get counseling. It's always good to speak to the professionals who will give a helping hand. Believe me, there is nothing wrong with that and it definitely is NOT a weak thing to do. Also you need to stop comparing your girl with the ex. Give her the credit she deserves. Leave the past where it belongs, in the past!
Hope I helped. Take care!
2006-11-07 23:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have been through a negative experience such as you describe, it's perfectly normal to be a little nervous about it happening again but hey you got to keep trying. I wonder if you shouldn't let your girlfriend know how much she turns you on when you guys get together- it's flattering...That's Life- you buck up and keep looking for a relationship that'll meet your needs. Take your chances or do nothing and get nothing...
2006-11-07 23:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 32 have 3 kids. Youngest 13 months, my sex drive is the highest now than ever before. So i really don't know what to say. Try being romantic.
2006-11-07 23:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Pardon Moi? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well have you ever thought that the reason that she stopped was you. Not saying it in a bad way but you have to firsrt look at your self and fix the probalem there before you start to talk about other peoples problems! Well just ask her about it and then go from there!
2006-11-07 23:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by brownsugacookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. But it is normal for them to be too tired if they are working, running a house and raising children.
Women usually reach their sexual peak at around 40, all other factors being equal (i.e. no health problems, not over-burdened as mentioned above).
Concentrate on being a great partner in other ways and you will be rewarded by not having a partner who is too tired to even consider it.
2006-11-07 23:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Gillian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please remember that women are not all the same.
For many of us, our sex drive kicks into high gear around 35 and doesn't let us a bit until menopause. That's around 15 years of you guys (who by now are well past YOUR prime) trying to keep up with us :-)
2006-11-07 23:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋