What to do if you've fallen in love with someone on the internet?

Question

We've never met, just talked on msn for like.. weeks. We've seen pics of eachother plus webcam, but I feel like an idiot cause Im not really sure if this way of meeting someone is very "accepted".. ?
I keep thinking about him day and night, and we've never adressed the question of "do you like me in a special way"-kinda-thing to eachother yet.. this is weiiiiird! So, like .. how do we get from here? Not sure if any of us dares to speak of the unspeakable :s

Answer 1

first of all ignore all the negative feedback you've already got.WAN**RS.

sorry about that.

a friend of mine has been happily married to his wife for years after meeting on the internet.the idea of it being sad has lost its edge since people have started to realise how good it can be to date from the internet.For instance you will actually get to know someone really well without seeing that much of them meaning to get to like the person and not just what they look like.we are constantly told how "its the person inside that matters" rather than how they look.i know im guilty of it myself.This is however a different and healthy approach to dating.your relationship can develop in just the same way and then you can take the next step of meeting etc etc etc.
the most important thing to remember is that if you find happiness/love etc this way NOBODY can critisise you for it.imagine not going this way and missing out.
Now thats stupid aint it?

You go girl and good luck.

Answer 2

You didn't say how old you are. And you didn't say how old "he" is either. It is one thing to get to know someone in the real world than in the cyber world. What I would suggest is that if you do decide to meet, either take a friend and also meet in a populated place say for instance a popular restaurant. It shouldn't bother him at all for you to take a friend with you as moral support. Because you don't "really" know this guy that well. You only know what he tells you about himself. Which may be true, or may not be true. So be careful, there is nothing wrong with that. And depending on the age of this guy too, you may not know if he is married either. And if you do go alone to meet him, then tell a friend everything, where your going, name of the person your meeting, etc... If plans change then stick to your guns and don't meet at another place that you don't feel is safe, like a motel or such. Use your head and common sense. Say no and mean it if you have too. Involve your friends as soon as possible if not the first time you meet so they know who your with too. There are some nice people out there but then there is always that percentage of creeps. So go with your gut feeling if you feel something isn't right, then your usually right.

Answer 3

Its only been weeks, as opposed to months or years. So its probably a little early to have fallen in love. Infatuation maybe.

I think you should take the bull by the horns and suggest a meeting. At least that way you will know the score either way.

Just be sure to meet in a public place and let someone know where you are going. (sorry, I don't mean to sound like your dad).

Answer 4

Be very careful that he is what he says he is as for sure you don't really know anything about him, don't be fooled by people on the net as they are often only after one thing and then goodbye and God knows what he is carrying, If I was you I would chat away to him but find a local boy and start dating, Let everyone know where you go and whom you are meeting as there are some weird people out there,.

Please be VERY CAREFUL

Answer 5

Well you should tell him you would like to meet him in person. Then if you like him from what you saw then go for it! And just keep up the relationship! Also You should be the first to come out and say what probably both of you are thinking because some men/boys will not just say what they feel we have to drag it out of them so just tell him how you feel and it wil go from there!and no it is not weird if u like him then u like him the people who say its weird is weird because everyone has the right to find there true love and be happy withthe person they choose!

Answer 6

Hi i am in the same situation but i am married we have talked on the phone, web cams,texts,IM same as you and we did plan to meet but we were both ill. Meet him but be safe its just the same as meeting someone in person except you have done the foundation work already. people say its dangerous yes it can be but if you take precautions tell someone where your going and what time you will be there then it shouldnt be a problem thats what i am going to do. Go for it!!!!

Answer 7

I have good friends who I have met like this, longest is more than 14 years ago !
Be careful, there are bad people who will take advantage.
You can talk using skype, or similar, without giving away your home address.
You can arrange to meet in a neutral, safe place.
Do not exchange addresses or close personal details until you are sure.

Answer 8

well, you kinda have to meet him in person to see if cyber connection tranlate in real life...
Public place, lots of people around, some coffee and conversation. Then go from there. But don't get your hopes too high, you never know.
It's not too weird, I know plenty of couples who've met online. It's just the same as in a bar or through friends in my opinion.
Good luck!

Answer 9

Well if you are feeling like love is in the air you are going to have to make the first move, ask if he want's to meet up with you sometime soon and take it from there good luck.

Answer 10

You must be falling in love to the voice; as a matter of fact, you cannot fallen in love to a person without see his face, I'm not gonna say it's silly, but it's kind of strange. But anyway, it's not easy and so fair...in fact do you know in what country he is?