I am attracted to a man 26 years older than me.....?

Question

I really like him, enjoy spending time with him.He is one of the most optimistic, happy, generous and interesting person i have ever met.I love having conversations with him over business and finance and generally many other aspects.Recently he asked me not to talk in plural any more.We have been out together twice and it was simply great. I haven't express my feelings and probably i will never do as he is married. When i see him, i just know that this is how i want my future husband to be... (i am 24). I do not want to cause him any problems.Should i keep seeing him (without anything happening between us) or sould i stop? If i should stop i will miss him a lot.......

Answer 1

He's married. You should respect that.

I guess what I would take from the situation is to identify the things that you find attractive in him and seek out people with those characteristics that are unmarried.

Answer 2

You're 24, he is 50 right? Do you have a living father that you have any kind of relationship with? Did you have a father growing up? They say that women seek out husbands like their fathers.

Consider that you have a crush on a man old enough to be your father, or even your grandfather, if your dad and your grandpa had been stupid enough to have a kid when they were only 13.

He may be indeed be very flattered by your attention, and the idea of a pretty, healthy, young woman with very little emotional or relationship baggage who is interested in him. You might be very appealing to him, esp if he has been married for a long while.

But, if you end up with him, when you are 50 he will be 76 :) You will still be healthy and he probably will not, also his kids will hate your guts, so you are best off not causing him or yourself any problems, try looking for guys your own age to converse with :)

Answer 3

hey well i have read your questions and here is my point , you dont have to take its just from my view. well i think dating a man 26 years older than you is too much off a age gap because theres so many things you would want to do that he might have already done. and also its going to be hard because theres somethings that you might say to him and he might find you childish sometimes. although it seem to you that u realy like him now when you realy get to no him and start living with him then them changes might start occure but anyway that my opinion. i hope you make the right choice. good luck

Answer 4

If he is rich, grab him off his wife. Run away, aid him die of natural causes, inherit the lot. Else pick yourself up. Take a good look at the mirror and realise that the lady you are looking at is entitled to a happy ending of her own.

Answer 5

control your feelings ..you never know ,a married man hardly falls in love ,be his friend but dont let it go so far.simply i think there will be no future for you with this guy!

Answer 6

Go for it nothing like breaking up a marrige

Answer 7

If you keep seeing him you will only cause heart break. Yours and his wife. Does he have kids? if he does you will break there hearts two.

Answer 8

ew he's old...lol..beware... if you do decide to continue seeing him...i say there's no problem..as long as the feelings are mutual

Edit: wait he's married....just be friends...don't ruin his wife's life

Answer 9

Tell his wife that you love him & that she should give him to you

Answer 10

i say "stop this" this will not only destory ur life but also him 2..... i only say this....else is on u........u looks intelligent kind of person..