I was out for dinner with my best male friend last week, and at one stage during the meal I was preoccupied with getting my noodles up onto my fork, and totally wasn't paying attention to what he was saying. Miffed, he accused me of checking out a guy that was sitting near us, and went off on a mini-rant about how I should shut my mouth and stop drooling. The truth is I didn't even see this other guy; I was busy with my uncooperative dinner. And also, I am sort of in love with my friend, the guy I went to dinner with. I fight it all the time, because we're friends for so long and I don't know how he feels about me, or whether it could work, or whatever. Anyway, what do you guys think was behind his mini-rant about me looking at another guy? Do you think he was jealous, or just annoyed that I was distracted, or what? Thanks for your help...
2006-11-07 21:57:29 · 24 answers · asked by Sinead C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was both..if you are so in love with him then you wouldnt have cared about your damn noodles. he probabbly proposed or something.
2006-11-07 22:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm a guy and I have a similar problem in that I really like a girl who i've been real good friends with for sooooo long and we're always out to dinner + to the cinema etc. The only reason why I would start ranting at her is that I would be jealous that I wasn't getting your attention thus meaning that there's a pretty good chance this guy really likes you too. The worse thing you could do is to back him into a corner and demand answers though! - Good luck..
2006-11-07 22:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Smarty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Agree that he behave in a jealous manner. BUT BEWARE. He ALSO behaved in a very possessive manner, which is not acceptable at all. After all, you are just friends, right? So far he has not had the gumption to take it further, so to be possessive under those circumstances is NOT good. It is one of the clear warning signs of a potentially abusive mate.
If I were you I would be steering well clear of any deepening of the relationship. This man is bad news.
Additional Note to Sinead: While the general populous may not like what I am saying here, please at least do your own research on this. There is plenty of work out there that will support what I am saying. Domestic Violence is a crime and rising, unfortunately. While you both may be young and this young man may not be yet mature enough to manage his feelings in an adult manner, his behaviour is a clear warning sign. I have attached a link that might help get you started.
2006-11-07 22:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Gillian 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It could be either. But more than likely it seems that this lad was jealous. What you have to decide now is if your friendship is strong enough for ye to dicscuss getting together. You both seem very comfortable in each others company and ye both have feelings for each other. Maybe drop hints, like that you like his personality or the way he dresses, a few subtle comments and if he gives you any hints that he is interested tell him how you feel. Dont be too eager just tell him that you have feelings for him. If he does not reciprocate then you need to drop the subject and carry on just as friends and don't change around him. The best of luck
2006-11-07 22:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would guess that he was annoyed that you were distracted. Men are simple - they say what they mean. Straight up and if you listen and don't change what he says to what you want him to say, there will be no problems. If he is your friend, talk to him and tell him that you think you have more than friendship feelings for him. If you can't tell a friend, who can you tell. Hope this helps as to profess feelings of a romantic nature always has a risk. Romantic is not sexual and should not be taken as such by him or you.
2006-11-07 22:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He digs you I would say as much as you dig him. That's the only reason he would go off, there must be this unspoken thing that you two just pick up on. Life is short go out to eat and do it again but on purpose and when he looks all pissed grab em by the collar and kiss em, that should shut up his rant really quick. PS- there is no Man-speak real men say what they mean and mean what they say the sooner you realize it the better, it saves from misunderstandings in the future.
-NmD!
2006-11-07 22:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that he was very jealous. i think you should talk to your friend because to me it sounds like he likes you too. Dont waste no more time. Go get your man. Just make sure that you both agree if it doesnt work out that you can still stay mates. You both might never be as close again but there is no point hating him or him hating you just cause a relationship didnt work out. Good Luck Chick.
2006-11-07 22:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was threatened, but this doesn't mean he wants to be more than friends. You say you're best friends, and friends compete for attention as well. If you have feelings for him then get it out in the open because bottling them up isn't healthy and at least you'll know where you stand. If you are as close as you say then if he isn't on the same page you should be good enough friends to rise above it and get on with your lives.
2006-11-07 22:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think he was jealous about it. It is clear that anyone who acts in this manner is truly attracted to you. He probably feels the same way you do and is waiting for you to make the first move.>
2006-11-07 22:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is either Jealous, or possessive over you. Sit him down somewhere quiet and tell him how you feel. I have a sneaky suspicion that he is thinking the same!
2006-11-07 22:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like he was a touch jealous. Men know we don't usually listen to them anyway, so he wouldn't have been ranting over that. I reckon its about time you cut your losses and spoke to him about how you feel x x x
2006-11-07 22:13:15 · answer #11 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋