i dont think there will ever be a point in my life where i will be able to understand men...................
2006-11-07 21:32:45 · 26 answers · asked by life_vamp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They are afraid of their responsibilities. Guys who did run away from commitments are weak, traitors, selfish, unsecured and immatured guys. Guy who accepts any responsibility are men who have plenty of guts and self confidence. They are proud of their masculinity. They are great fathers.
If you need to understand such a man, let me know I maybe of help to you.
2006-11-07 21:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Not all men run from commitment. As far as trying to understand it, don't. I think men want a relationship as much as women do, sometimes it just takes some of them a little longer to get to that point.
2006-11-08 05:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Julie W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think I will ever understand men either, despite having a brother to whom I am very close and lots of male friends.
I've never met a man who didn't have commitment issues. I hope that as men get older they find it less difficult to just allow themselves to be with one person, and stop their incessant need to look around, to check out what they might be 'missing' by picking just one woman. A guy, with whom I was very much in love at the time, once told me that he could never be with just one person because it would be 'settling for second best', and that he'd always need to be on the lookout for a better model. That broke my heart. I still love that particular guy, but I think he will find, one day, that he is suddenly 70 years old, alone, and possibly still afraid of being loved/loving. It's a real shame because he's a beautiful person; I just think he's deeply afraid of being vulnerable and letting someone else into his heart. We women think that men are stupid and callous and stubborn a lot of the time, but I think the truth is they're just as afraid and unsure and insecure as we are, or can be at times. It's a shame we can't all just own up to being scared, realise that we're all the same underneath all the posturing, and just get on with finding someone to love! (rant over)
2006-11-08 05:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because (most of us) have a romantic view of ourselves as bachelors who are free, control our own lives and do what we want when we want. Childish but altogether a very attractive prospect for young man.
We like that idea, however embelished it may be from the truth, that all the doors are open and we could go and do anything anywhere we please. But when a relationship gets to a stage were the question is asked and committment becomes an issue, it sets off alarms because to blokes doors are closing, responsibility beckons, and in our heads we're thinkin,
'I won't be free anymore, a committment means I'm bound to this other person to a degree. I'm not that young anymore-committment is for grown-ups, I don't like this, commmittment means open relationship, sharing, intimacy with emotions and interdependency. It means change, change from the way I know I like things, committment leads to moving in, marriage, babies, no more freedom....etc etc etc.'
And although some blokes are ready and all for that idea, love that idea and can't wait to find the right person to be with long term, for others, it scares the be-jesus outta them. Cuz we're stupid. We don't know what we want, and we're stupid.
2006-11-08 05:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there's really just a lot less societal pressure to get married or engaged than in the past. A lot of guys just don't see a need for it. Why would they when they can still have kids, play the field, etc. Also, many of us have heard the horror stories of divorces and the women getting everthing so we want to protect our assets... well at least I do anyway.
2006-11-08 05:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by AK-47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment comes from maturity.
A man or woman must come to the point in their life where they are committed to someone or something. Otherwise, they are going to become just beings.
In your case, you need to look for guys in other areas. Where you are looking you are finding boys looking for toys... You're not a toy!!!!
2006-11-08 07:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men do hun, a lot of them maybe because maybe their just out for fun etc. There are peeps out there looking for commitment it's just hard finding the right one.
2006-11-08 05:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by phobzy85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because commitment is boring as it plans out the next weeks/months/years of your life.
No point in getting comitted before you've done all the other things in life first, i.e drinking, pulling, travelling, etc.
2006-11-08 05:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sluugy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't run from it .. So not every man does.
All i can say is most men wanna play the field and enjoy a lot of different women..Or maybe they are just afraid to settle down because they fear of getting close and losing her
2006-11-08 05:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I definatley do not run from it--In fact I embrace the idea with the right person--Men and women do not understand each other---the thing is to find some one that is patient enought to TRY to understand
2006-11-08 05:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Rez 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋