I'm African and I have been dating an Indian guy who is 34yrs for 2 months now. He treats me so nice on all the dates we've had. Now he has started talking of marraige. I feel that being of a different race will not go down too well with his people so I'm planning to break up with him this weekend. This saddens me so much but what else can I do. What's your opinion? Also he is muslim but insists he isn't a religious person. Sometimes I wish we had never met
2006-11-07 21:18:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He always treats you nice? And now he's talking of marriage? Just because the family doesn't like you (why should they, in this day and age. And if they do, that doesn't have anything to do with him) doesn't mean you should break up! If he asks you to marry him, and then the family expresses a dislike for you, deal with it then. If he's willing to look past race, so should you be. Don't worry about the family. If they're reasonable, they will get past their prejudice, and if they aren't, you have him. He will want you whether his family does or not.
If there is another reason you want to break up with him, think about that. Why do you really want to break up with him? And if it is because you're afraid the family won't like you, tell him! Ask if they won't, and ask how that will affect your and his relationship. If he feels its a problem, then marriage obviously isn't an option. But if it isn't, then you can work things out with the family.
Love will find a way!
Give him a chance.
If you disagree with his religion, get it out in the open. If he insists he isnt religious, you need to think about how it will affect your relationship. If you can't deal with that influence in your life, you need to seriously reconsider.
"Sometimes I wish we had never met." Why? What is it about him? Is it his race, religion? You say he is nice... but...
It really does seem like you're ready to break up, but these seem to be rather physical reasons. Not very deep. If you worry about these kinds of things now, are you really ready for marriage anyway?
These things you have to discuss with him. Look deeper for the reasons you wish you'd never met. I'll bet it's something more than your race or his family or religion.
Good luck!
2006-11-07 21:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by A1 and A2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. the race difference is definately gonna b a problem wid u guys.. coz im an indian.. lemme tell u something.. in india u dont marry just the groom.. u marry his whole family.. and indian people think a lot about marriage right after some time of being in a relationship.. so if u think ur ready to commit n settle down.. u may go ahead.. but i m not sure if it would work out well for u guys.. coz after all.. no matter where we're born or raised.. an indian will always be a lil conservative n family oriented.. ur gonna hafta c if u can deal wid his family as well..its all abt family n values.. n u already sound that ur prepared to break up.. so i'd suggest its the best to let go on a nice friendly note...
2006-11-07 21:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by ankita s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it! Most people nowadays are so much better about accepting multi-racial marriages. And he's obviously okay with it if he has been talking marriage with you. I mean, you might run into a few people that arent OK with it but hey, its not your life they're living and you shouldn't have to live under their rules.
Whats most important though is your age... how many years apart are you guys? Are you in the same stages of your lives? Also, are you personally ready for marraige? Those are questions I'd be focusing on instead of the racial question. Good luck!
2006-11-07 21:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 03:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not giving him chance to continue courting you until such time you know each other's well? Being diferrent races has no problem if both of you adopt and adjust to others cultures. If you had tried everything and found it still difficult accepting cultures and family traditions that's the time you will think twice to terminate your relationship with him. Belonging in to diferrent religions not also a problem if you will respect his own faiths and not to interfer nor criticize his own. Good Luck and best wishes...
2006-11-07 21:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of an Africa girl of a christian background who met and got married to a Muslim guy at first he said he wasn't the fanatic type but after their marriage he even when as far as asking her to be wearing a veil in few words the union was disastrous..... all the best
2006-11-07 21:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear if he is good for u then why u want to break up for the sake of race difference. If u like each other then u could adjust with each other with each other's family. Because love never see the caste,richness or otherthing. But if u feel that u don't adjust with them then it is ur choice.
2006-11-07 22:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by care 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to think with your head, not with your heart. If you know that it would not work in the long run, better to get out sooner, rather than later. Plus, 2 months, and talking about marriage, that's a bit quick, don't you think? Good luck.
2006-11-07 21:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by oh_what_a_wabbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him I wouldnt look at race as a problem. Its like saying Im black and Im dating a white guy and that wouldnt be right but he's a real nice guy. Who cares about race. I say stick to it. If his people have a problem then tell them to get over it. lol Live your life if your happy thats all that counts : )
2006-11-08 04:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by cele24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, break up. He will find someone else. Its sad for you but looks you better dont have much choice. The other option for you is to tell him that you dont want to marry with him, and continue the current relationship.
2006-11-08 23:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by manoj Ransing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋