friends,that they are doing for me oral and other,most of the days i saw that or when my hubby is fingering me i do ask him to tell a story in which he's enjoying with girls whom we know.my hubby knows that i do fantasise,but i dint told him tht i see his friends in my fantasy,he always tell me erotic stories like he making love or giving orals with girls we both know.he says in detail and i enjoy and at last i will have oragasm.is it good to fantasise?shld i tell my hubby abt the fantasy i saw,tht i saw tht im having sex wt his frnds,like tht?pls advise!
2006-11-07 21:15:05 · 15 answers · asked by cute mary 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why not just shut up and not tell your husband...and just have a lesbian affair?
2006-11-08 00:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer for you is very direct. I was thinking how can you actually fantasize about your husband's guy friends? That's actually betraying already. Well, you're just a step higher to ruining your own happiness and marriage. I'm also curious to know what do or will you gain when you asked your husband to think of other women? Do you like your man to think of having sex with other women? And when you actually fantasize about his friends, only then you can achieve orgasms. That means you don't really love your husband alot. And what makes you so sure that your husband will not get angry and jealous if he finds out your little fantasies with his friends? You may not get angry or jealous when you asked your hubby to tell you stories about how he enjoyed with your both known female friends, but on the other hand, that doesn't mean he'll not. Anyway, I wld advise you not to reveal your secrets out. Unless you're heading for death. Finally, the decision is yours, think about it whether you want to tell him or not. I wld also suggest you don't ever fantasize about his friends anymore, there are surely better men outside than his mates! Be more faithful, my dear and Good luck to you!
2006-11-07 21:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is very normal for you to think of other people while you are having sex. It is also very good that you and your husband can talk about it but you must be sure that it is a fantasy and not a wish. Maybe you and you husband might like to think about both of you doing it with other people at the same time.
There is a sex education site that tells it all if you go to it.
2006-11-07 22:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might damage his ego. Perhaps it's better if you don't tell him. At present, although he fantasizes about your friends, he probably unwittingly feels he's the best lover in your life.
Unless of course, you bring it up to him casually. Like, one day during a conversation, ask him what he'd think if you were to have some of your own fantasies too. Just don't tell him who with yet. Ask him if he has any ideas. Perhaps it might work if you let him think it's his idea. :p
2006-11-07 22:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes on inside your own head belongs to you; the things about the imagination is that you can do anything you want there. If you enjoy your fantasies then enjoy them; you could feel out hubbie by talking about it indirectly and check his response. Meanwhile, enjoy what you have,
2006-11-07 22:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ran Steiger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i will suggest that you keep the fantasy in your mind and mind alone. Do not be tempted at any point to tell your husband. Guys don't like their wives to fantasise about other men other than himself. its a guy ego thing.
2006-11-07 22:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by autumn lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he tells you about his fantasies with other girls, i do not see why you do not tell him about his fantasies.
Fantasies will help keep the relationship on a erotically stimulated level..
but too much fantasies will cause lack of interest in each other.. try fantasizing about each other.. try fantasizing about what your hubby could possibly do to you but asking him not to try it.. sometimes, the suspense will keep you fantasizing about him more!
2006-11-07 21:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi Momo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
here comes another crazy question ,if you have regard for the marriage institute you'll rather think of deviating from this madness you call fantasy before loneliness replaces your pleasure
2006-11-07 21:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not the only one. i am getting married but i think of other woman. i am not gay. i just fantasies about them. and worst of it AL ts my 2 best friends. so i think you should tell him. if he rally love you he Will understand. i told my hobby and he was cool with it. he just tried to make it more exiting.
so don't worry about it. everybody do it so what ever
2006-11-07 21:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by Hotrod Hoender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man I will advise you not to tell him about your fantasie as I believe it can be harmful for you in future.
2006-11-07 21:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by dua 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't think so much on it-let it be pass-let the time take its course to evaluate the stage of your thought-if you feel guilty -confess it to your self-have faith in yourself-and move ahead with positive thinking-trust your god too-your truth & your will power make the way for u
2006-11-07 21:53:30 · answer #11 · answered by mahesh s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋