im seeing this guy that i fancy on a casual basis. i few months back i ended my serious relationship. this guy has been chasing me for ages and ages and i mean ages!we have only kissed eachother. he always compliments me and a real gent towards me.He says that he likes me and does not see me as another knotch. anyway, we were fooling around and he asked/hinted that he wanted me to go "down there" (bj). i refused saying that it was too soon. We have only got together 3 times. he is still in contact with me. why was he asking?was he testing the boundaries to see where we were going?was he seeing if i liked him and was over me ex?was he doing it to see my reaction?
2006-11-07 20:42:04 · 14 answers · asked by Becky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we guys think about sex every six seconds...............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................
sorry for the interruption, I was thinking. Sometimes.................................................................................................................................................................................... we say out loud what we were thinking.................
Thats it.
2006-11-07 20:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
what ever you do dont do it!! he is only using you...all this time hes put into pursuing you and now you know why! when you said he told that he doesnt see you as another knotch, that shouldve been your sign!! it has nothing to do with boundries, your ex, or your reaction... it was just to see if all the effort hes put into getting the chance to be that close to you would pay off!!! you should play hard to get and drive him crazy, cus I know that thats all he wants from you....
2006-11-07 20:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was asking because it is a nice thing to have done.
Don't try to read mind-games into the actions of men. We don't work the same way you do.
Sex is sex. It isn't some sort of test. It is something to do that feels good.
2006-11-07 20:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haven't you asked this question about ten times already? he wants to use you just for sex, he's probably still going out with his ex or someone else. Its entirely up to you whether you want to be used or not it sounds like you will let yourself get used because you keep asking this question in the hope that someone will say that this guy loves you.
2006-11-07 20:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey to be honest, who really knows what is going through a mans head at any time. I'm still trying to work my one out ad we have been together for 8 years. It just sounded like he wanted to test you. To see how far he could get you. You don't have to be sexual with him to show him that you do really like him. Just explain that to him. Tell him if your not ready, if he likes you as much as it seems then he'll understand.
2006-11-07 20:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by rach 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HES A MAN... Dont read into it... men dont do different levels...
He Says ... gis us a bj.....
He Means... gis us a bj.....
No tests.... no mixed signals just blunt and to the point...
Either way i think you need to be kicking his a*s to the curb cause he sounds like hes messin wiv ya!!
2006-11-07 20:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guys point of view i think maybe you are reading to much in to it. We are pretty shallow creatures, i think he probably just wanted a bj.
2006-11-07 20:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by SilverSurfer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He asked because he wanted it, if he is still around he actually likes you. Don't do anything you are not sure about if he really cares about you he will understand and keep coming back.
2006-11-07 20:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by dakota29575 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him you're not ready for anything like that yet. Alot of men try to push their luck - just put him straight. Start as you mean to go on and be in control.
Good luck!
2006-11-07 20:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Chazza xx Baby born 7/11/09 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is not worth it. If he really liked you, he would have wanted to please you instead so you would like him more and start a relationship with him. If you are not together and he asks for that, he just wants one thing.
2006-11-07 20:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by jacksfullhouse 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just meet him half way and say you will do a bit of 69
2006-11-07 20:44:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋