if you really like a guy and he invites you back to his place, what does he mean?what is he hoping for?what should you do if you really like him?i really like this guy but im not sure if he really interested in me or after "one thing". i came out of a long term relationship a few months ago and i cant read the signs!!!am i just being over cautious?
2006-11-07 20:09:10 · 26 answers · asked by Pretty Little Girl xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably hoping for sex, maybe not though. go over there, if thats all he wants then leave. you can always say no.
2006-11-07 20:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by sonnystylez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see 2 options here:
1) You sh*g him and see
2) You have a bit of self respect and wait till you get some committment and you feel happy that you want to take the relationship to the next level. If he scarpers during this time you will know that he was just after a bunk up and this would have been disaterous for your confidence after coming out of a long relationship.
Its never easy and I hope things do work out for you.
2006-11-08 04:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known him? How long have you dated him? Are you over your long term relationship?
I would say off the top of my head he wants sex. I think he could be playing on your situation. Make your dates neutral for a bit or invite him to your place making it clear that you want to get to know more about him - as in his personality. Say nothing about getting to know more about sexual things. Be specific regarding no sex because it is too early in the game and you want to know what the two of you have in common. If he is even somewhat decent he will abide by this. If he doesn't like it or dumps you - he was never worth it and only wanted sex and nothing else.
2006-11-08 04:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for a little alone time. But he can't have what you won't give him. But then again I could be totally off, he may just want some quality time without having to share you with anyone else. But remember as the night goes by he's going to try to at least kiss you, Either he really likes you or he wants a piece of as s. Either way it's up to you how far he goes. If you really like him then hold out awhile.
2006-11-08 04:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by MedicineWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhm.. i think he wats your company..why would he ask you back to his place if he doesn't, right? well, you wont know what he is hoping for unless you ask. .......if you like the guy then, give your self a chance to know him more. if he's just after you because of that one thing.. then just kick him on the nuts and leave.. ( sorry) ...well if you think youre just being just cautious, no one can blame you, right? you just came out from a bad relationship.. so just give your self a chance. okey.. new beginnings. you won't know if you won't try
2006-11-08 04:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by _nakahhidit_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation, I would decline personally, but thats just cause i want to be serious and being alone with a man can often lead to one thing, let the man respect you and invite you out again and again and then take it from there
2006-11-08 04:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably sees u as an easy catch, for the "one thing" i.e.If u wanna just be used go ahead, if u respect urself, say u would rather prefer meeting somewhere else. But in the faintest possibility he could be havin a pure mind, but yet play safe
2006-11-08 04:14:43 · answer #7 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beats me, but think of it this way. Just say he does ask you to go back to his place, whatever he means, just go ahead and spend more time with him, but if he does want to get down and dirty and you dont want to, dont do it,say you dont want to. If he is disappointed, then he wasn't in it for a real relationship anyway and cut your losses, but if he doesn't seem bothered, then he really is a nice guy. And also, just because someone says 'Come back to my place' it doesn't necessarily mean you have to do it with him, that's just in the movies.I dont know, I'm am just as clueless as you are, but that's what I would've done. Good luck!!!
2006-11-08 04:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like him don't do it. cause the only way to find out if he's really in it is to tell him you are not interested/ready for a intimate relationship at this time. if he sticks around and doesn't make a fuss about it then you'll know he really cares. but if he blows you off you'll know if he just wants sex.
and if he dose just want some then forget him he's not worth your time
2006-11-08 04:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The moment he invites you to his place look at him directly and ask what he'd like the two of you to do at his place. Check out his reaction as well as the answer.
2006-11-08 04:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by ♥¢♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cautiousness is your normal reaction that you should never fight against,as it saves you knowingly go into positions that you may not get out of.
Meet up in public places and get to know more about this bloke before you get into his world where he may control things and you end up feeling guilty and obligated.
You are still to get over losing what you had for a longtime,and jumping into another relationship is never the answer.
2006-11-08 04:24:29 · answer #11 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋