The wedding is tomorrow and I want to know the consequence of saying no at last minute.
2006-11-07 20:05:46 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Most likely your prospective bride/groom would be very upset. Some of the family will probably be upset and wedding guests who spent good money to come to the wedding would be unhappy. Also, most likely you would lose all the the money you have put into the event as by now everything has been put into writing.
However, if you are REALLY not ready for marriage (this isn't just cold feet?) you need to talk to your fiancee and be honest with him/her. It is unfair for him/her if you are not. Sure they will be upset, but what about if you go through with it to only get a divorce.
I would tell them, but I would also go ahead and have a reception for people who came anyways. Maybe do what the one lady did. She turned her reception into a charity event (because the wedding was called off).
Also, I would try to tell him/her as soon as possible. Don't leave him/her at the alter, that is just plain mean. It's better if you don't do it in front of everyone or right before the ceremony/
Good Luck!
2006-11-08 02:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by SNK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the consequences,because your talking about your whole life and a commitment that you really don't won't. And if you really don't won't this, it might up ending in a divorce which could cost alot of money like mine did, alot of friends taking sides for one or the other, and considering the fact that you will be miserable if you REALLY DON'T WON'T THIS! Then again maybe your just really nervous and you do love and won't to marry him, and you just THINK you don't won't to! which I think probably the case? And if that is it, "girlfriend it's not so bad! really" just stare him in the eye's all the way there and don't look at anyone else, and you will be fine. Good Luck in what ever you decide! Sorry I can't help u more! I don't know enough info. on the two of you. sunnydays
2006-11-07 20:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, it sounds like you've just got a case of cold feet, how long have you wanted to call the wedding off?? but then if you are serious, it's better to say no and face the consequence than be in an unhappy marriage and have it end in divorce, but it is also selfish you have waited this long to call it off, like you think you could of said something before?? this is gonna cost alot of money coz you left it so long, but you've gotta live with it.
2006-11-07 20:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The consequences - who really knows. How many people do something like that in last day? who can have experience about what happened next?. You are crazy for sure. If you have the idea to say no just say NO and take everything like is nothing wrong to change your mine. Play some schizophrenic, mental problem, unstable person and who care - walk away and don't look back. Make some plan vacations and disappear.
2006-11-07 20:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the consequences??? he or she will be very ANGRY and the people who paid for the wedding will be pissed too...and you can FORGET about the family of the person ur saying no to ever liking you again... it's just a thing parents have with their children.. but YOU should make you own choice, if your having second thoughts now just imagine the second thoughts u could have in a year or even a few months, really think about it and dont make a mistake if thats what you see it as!
2006-11-07 20:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by tiffany 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
For a start : All money spent will be gone for the preparations, albums, photo shoots, costumes, new furnitures, wedding rings, cakes, florists etc...
Then come the apologies to all parties involved : bride, frens & relatives, cancellation of all dinners, registrar, photographers, hotels, tour agency + calling every guest not to come...
If the marriage cert has been signed, u have to annul it.
You have to do alot, but finally, you if really don't want to marry , don't go through it, it's best to call off now then later...
2006-11-07 20:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG... well you're in deep...
Ok well you can be nice about it. Call him up and tell him you're having panic attack.... you'd like time to think this whole thing over and all. Be firm about postponing it, he'll definitely try to talk you out of it. No need to end up quarrelling over it, so just keep the conversation short, explain yourself clearly and make sure he understands you would be turning up tomorrow.
Then take all the time you need to think this through. It can even be postponed indefinitely (cancelled) if that's wat you decide in the end.
Of course frens and relatives will be haggling you, but don't let it distract you from the real question of whether you are ready for this man and if he's the right one for you.
Hope you find peace (and love)
2006-11-07 21:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok, it goes without saying that if you're not wanting to get married, you should have brought that up a long time ago. however, if you don't want to get married, TELL HIM IMMEDIATELY!!! yeah, it's going to suck, a lot of people will be mad at you, but you can deal with that. it's better to cancel the day before than to get a divorce right after the wedding. good luck.
2006-11-08 05:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be more worried about the consequences of not saying no when you don't want to marry him.
2006-11-08 00:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by sweetwickedgrl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow... !why do you want to say no in the last minute ???
you might just got a bit of a cold feet maybe just scared of the whole thing as it is here now !
if you still love each other please don't cancell it it will be fine ....
2006-11-07 21:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by silvia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋