Ok, heres the thing, my boyfriend doesn't preform orally. he says he never has. but he gets all bent out of shape when i refuse to give it to him (i showed him once what he was missing) am i wrong for not wanting to give him oral since he wont give it to me? when we first started seeing each other, i told him i had one rule when it came to sex...don't ask me to do anything your not willing to do yourself...
am i wrong?
2006-11-07 19:41:52 · 24 answers · asked by amanda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stick to your guns sweetie. I have the same rule.
2006-11-07 19:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by sonnystylez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong but don't use sex as a tool, dont' with hold cause it ruins your relationship. It just gets him feeling resentful. There are guys who don't like oral sex on women - they think it is dirty, smells funny, and just plain don't know how to do it. Others are selfish.
However, my guy doesn't do oral sex. But it doesn't bother me cause I orgasm in so many different positions. i am a female ejacualtor and guys don't necessarily want to get that in their mouth. Also I love oral sex on him.
the answer I would give to you is if he wont do it and you want it tell him that it is a sexual deal breaker for you in the relationship. If he doesn't and you still want it break up with him and find a guy more sexually compatible with you.
You want your sexual needs met it seems like another guy will be better for you. In the future always bring this up as you have. Any man not willing to perform oral sex on you dump and eventually you will find a man that loves to pleasure women with oral sex.
Take care and always remember your sexual satisfaction is extremely important. don't settle unless some sort of middle ground can be reached between the 2 of you.
2006-11-07 19:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong. It's only fair to give and take.
Try to find out why he won't go there. He might be nervous, not know what to do, or just be a selfish jerk. You could always get a brazilian wax and take a shower with him before hand, in case he's afraid it will smell bad or something. Also, don't expect him to do it after he's been pleased. Get him really turned on then suggest it. Compromise and ask him to start out by kissing your legs or something. Maybe when he sees how much you like it, he won't be afraid to keep going.
All the guys I've dated have LOVED doing it. I think it has to do with maturity.
2006-11-07 19:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a dude, I have to say you are right. Withholding that from a guy is wrong, but certainly no more wrong than a guy withholding it.
Make sure you are getting what you want and need in a relationship because that void will only become magnified over time - you'll eventually find it elsewhere.
2006-11-07 19:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by FSJD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him lick it if he wants to stick it!
Ok, pretty crude, but a good policy none the less.
Maybe he does not know how and is embarrassed or maybe the female "moisture" grosses him out and he just does not know how to say it. At least we have the option to spit or swallow!
2006-11-07 19:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by She-ra 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ur right for the most part, and i think this situation would fall under the most part. so in this situation i say that you are right, if he wants head he should give face, if its that he hasn't dont it before then you be his maste.....i mean teacher >:D with this. and are you sure he's straight, omg i love giving face and i would do it to my GF every day but we arn't even sexually active, hey i have a question for you, how long did you wait before you became sexually active with your BF and do you consider yourself more conservative then most, more liberal then most, or right about in the middle?
2006-11-07 19:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by ParadoxZero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why you woman still think oral sex is so great for men ?
its just normal. nothing that desirable.
why is he refusing to give you a head ?
is he scared of furry cup ?
2006-11-08 21:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Martin the baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u stipulated that in the "rule book" from the beginning, he cant complain.If he wants u to do it, he had better go down on his knees. Enjoy.
2006-11-07 19:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong, a relationship works 2 ways.
Give and take so to speak.
2006-11-07 19:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, it give and take. Tell him if he wants oral, then do a 69
2006-11-07 19:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋