my gf gained 80 lbs since we started dating...i want out..how should i go about this?
2006-11-07 19:29:34 · 14 answers · asked by That One!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well just let her know in a nice way with out hurting her feelings weight gain is a touchy subject to us females and by the way if you really love her you would try to help her out rather than be judgmental
2006-11-07 19:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to hear BS if you really love her, it would not matter. You can't help the way you feel, and what attracts you to her. If she is not appealing to you now, break it off, and just tell her you've changed, and don't have the feelings for her anymore. It would be better to tell the truth, but you may not want to hurt her feelings. Break it off, take some time to yourself, and see what is out there. If your young, date more, and don't look at starting a relationship right away. When you've found the right one, it will happen without you really knowing it.
One other thing, I have always tried to stay friends with ex's. Parting ways as enemies always seemed childish to me. Both of you can never have to many friends. Good luck.
2006-11-08 07:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by justsurviv'n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
80 pounds is a huge amount of weight, it sounds like a thyroid problem or serious health issue. If everything's OK in the relationship except the fat issue, take her to a doctor for help. They have thyroid regulation medication she can take, this has happened to several people I know & the pounds melted right off. If there are other problems in the relationship, break it off like you would any other relationship. So you don't send her in (even more of) an emotional tailspin, don't mention the fat problem in the breakup.
2006-11-08 03:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sunnie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If gaining weight is the sole reason you want to end things with your girl friend than obviously it wasnt meant to last forever...so end it as soon as possible, the longer you wait the more painful it will be for her. You just have to be honest, tell her you dont love her anymore and move on...its not fair to you to stay in a relationship that doesnt make you happy!
2006-11-08 03:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by AMY C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to end it just because she gained weight? there must have not been too much substance in the relationship if you are ending it just for that reason. since you are disrespecting her that way, at least show her some respect and just end it and don't string the poor girl along.... like a band-aid... right off.
2006-11-08 03:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by Yee Haw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't break the relationship because of that! Offer to help her in a nice manner such as "Gee Honey, I want to start working out and I need a partner, would you like to join me?"
2006-11-08 03:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to dance around the truth. Unfortunately you will have to confess. You will simply have to tell her that you don't feel the same for her and though you don't mean to hurt her. you have to move on.
She is definitely going to ask if her weight has anything to do with it. Be honest and tell her how you feel.
2006-11-08 03:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wrong...you don't leave someone b/c of their physical appearance...just be a man and tell her that you never loved her to begin with....cause if you truly care about her you wouldn't leave her all b/c of weight gain....there's other ways to go about it and leaving her is not one....just remember what goes around comes around.
2006-11-08 03:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do, don't mention this as your reasoning. that would mess up things.
i reccomend you be an *** to her. i don't have the heart to break up with anyone. in 2 of the 4 times i've hooked up, this has been my approach. this way she ends it and has her confidence.
2006-11-08 03:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tel her its just not working out, you have issues you have to sort out in your life(with her gaining weight, but you don't tell her that part). or you can just help her lose weight. girls appriciate honesty.
2006-11-08 03:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by ladybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋