okay, i just moved to texas with my boyfriend... i left EVERYTHING behind in georgia to be with him. but he has been acting really weird lately and refuses to talk to anybody about whats bothering him. he assures (or trys to) me that it has nothing to do with me, but if he cant even talk to me then how am i not suppose to thing so? he enters a 28 day rehab tomorrow, do i wait for him to see if he changes when he comes out, or stop wasting time now and just go home? i really dont know what to do!!! we have been together for 6 years, its hard to just walk away from...
2006-11-07 18:58:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it were me, I'd wait until he finishes rehab. After 6 years you must have a "gut instinct" about what to do.In the meantime YOU should find the closest Al-Anon meeting to attend. No matter what they are recovering from , you need the support of those who've been where you are now. Your time won't be wasted, the meetings are free,informational and confidential.
2006-11-07 19:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
28 days? Sounds like a drinker.. You don't think the fact that he's going into rehab bothers him? That fact alone would probably give him 100 different worries. He's trying to start a new lifestyle, he'll go through chemical changes, and have to confront himself in counselling.
He's going to need support, not questions, although you can't ignore bad behavior.
I'd advise hang in there, as you already have quite an investment.
You may end up in a better emotional place with him if he stays straight when he gets out.
2006-11-08 03:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with him and see what's up. If you've been together this long and committed, it is worth the wait. It may be something personal and important to him that he cannot share yet, but he may open up later on. I would give him some time and space first. Otherwise, if you jump ship now, you may never know the truth. You can always leave later if it looks like you don't want to be committed to him anymore, but I would give it a fair chance before throwing it all away so soon.
2006-11-08 03:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by LW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is preoccupied if he is going into alcohol or drug rehab tomorrow for 28 days. If you have been together for 6 years and you have been happy, why throw that away without seeing what he is like when He comes out?
2006-11-08 03:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should just walk away you been with each other too long and maybe whats bothering him is going into this program. if so he needs you to get through it and don't know how to say it. I just don't think you should walk away from something that you don't even know what is the matter if you love him stick it out to the end
2006-11-08 03:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie-Pie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that sounds pretty tough. I guess you would just have to follow what is in your heart. if you feel that you need to stick by him through this rough stage of his life while he gets better than so be it. But if you feel like going home, or some place else, would be best for you, you gotta do what you think is best for you.
I know you really love him, but think about further on down the road. if he shells his feelings like this right now, do you really think its going to change in the longrun?
I dont know u that well, but I would definitely say that you need to do what is right for you. Email me if u wanna talk somemore cuz this sounds really serious. qbullseyeq@hotmail.com
2006-11-08 03:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all... forgive me for my poor english... i am not american and its not my native language :)
now...movingin with you're boyfriend is a big step my dear...you didnt mantion how long you been togather befor you made this step.
how ever , people does not change , dont wait for him to change or expect him to change 'cause it wont happen , people do not change...
i would advice to you to take a long talk with him about that and about how you feel and everything when he comes back , and if he is not ready to talk about it , or not acting in steps that makes you happy after that , you move back to you're city with what you know and want , it doesnt mean he stopes been you're boyfriend , its just step backword till you both mature enough to this kind of relitionship of moving togather :)
2006-11-08 03:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by 1234abcd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is 28 days too long to wait for love? hell no, you've waited 6 years on this
2006-11-08 03:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by PushDownAndTurn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never in your wildest dream , think of betraying him , beacuse you are leaving him when he needs you most. just be patient and wait as he returns and try to understand what defferent he had made at rehab.centre. even after considerable time his attitude towards you does not change, just change your partner.
2006-11-08 03:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by yumakol i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what to say that! Thats really strange! I never heard anything like that! Well, if hes keep on doing it then move back!
2006-11-08 03:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by FP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋