CHRISTIANS ONLY!!!! This may sound weird at first, but keep on reading please? I really need your help!!!?

Question

I already asked this, but I acidentally stopped the answering tim way short! SORRY!!!

I am 14 years old, and am a Christian, maybe not the strongest, but I pray, read my Bibile, and try to do what God tells me.
Now I have been going out with this guy for just over 4 months. He is Catholic, but I am pretty sure that he is a born again Christian. We've been through alot together and are really committed to each other and this realationship.
On November 4th our golden anniversary we kissed. We were at his dad's girlfriend's house about 3 hours away. We were gone all weekend. My parents had told me not to kiss him before we left and I remember telling him that, but he doesn't remember me telling him until after we had already kissed. Once we realized what had happened we were both just crying and praying for a long time.
Now we came home and my parents found out (his parents don't care). They are really upset and we're both really afraid that they are going to make us break-up.

They had a really long serious talk with me about what I did to him. They don't think that He's Christian and therefore I am totally at blame. They don't trust me at all now, and say that I have unleashed a flood-gate of sin upon him now. Since I'm not going to have sex before marriage, and by kissing him I have initiated his sex-drive, his only options are porn, sex, or getting really mad around me and stuff. I don't want this to happen to him since I care so deeply for him. What should I do now? I have only seen him in school for a few hours since then, and my parents still want to have a talk with both of us. We've been praying, but I wanted to get the opinions of some God fearing born again Christians on here. Please help me! I just have no clue what to do!!

He hates his church which scares me, but he loves my church, he just says that his church is too boring.
I still want to kiss him though, and I know that he wants to kiss me.
Yes we are both 14 and besides my dog this was both of ours first kiss. By Golden Anniversary I mean that the date of our anniversary is how long that we have been going out. That is what is means where I live.

We don't actually go out on dates without a chaperone, well we did once, but my parents actually set that up. Anyway we do mainly just hang out at my house sometimes we go to his house, but for the main its just here on my couch.

Answer 1

My little sister please hear me out.

Matthew 6:33 says "But seek you first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things will be added unto you."

There is nothing like just spending time with Jesus, in His word, in prayer, and in worship, all at our masters feet. Yes there is a bit of pleasure in kissing or in the other drives that God has made us with, though all in His time, it is like a beautiful flower that blooms. Love is patient and it is kind. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be together then in God's perfect time, by His perfect will, then you both will be together. If it is not God's will then know this that God has someone so much better for you then you could have ever imagined. Please don't just read God's Word, the Bible as just another book, for it is 66 love letters from God to you, and for you to grow and mature by. The love of Jesus for you can't be compared to by anything else, no human relationship or even what we have, for all will seem dim when I am with Him. Seek to really know God first, and in His proper time, You will see that the love that waits will be rewarded.
Trust God and obey your mom and dad.
Your in my prayers. God Bless You<>< + ><>

Answer 2

I do understand your parents' concern sweetie but they are dead wrong when they blame you for "opening the floodgate" of his passion by kissing him. They must not be remembering back to their teens but those hormones are raging and the feelings are already there. Kissing is not a sin. Passion and desire and normal, God-given feelings. You both are indeed very young and you need to be careful but you sound like you do indeed WANT to live a Christian life and do the right thing. That is very noble of you. Your parents can't save you. They taught you the difference between right and wrong and they raised you in church. It's time to let go and give God control. Only God can save you and you must call on Him personally to give you strength in this situation with your boyfriend and in the situation with you parents. Call on Him to give you answers - ask what is the RIGHT thing for you to do with the relationship. It sounds like you two really love each other and that is possible at 14 - I know because it happened to me at that age. All these years later I could never lie and say it wasn't real. If your boyfriend says he is a born-again Christian and he lives that life that is all you need to go by. The fact that he is unhappy in the Catholic church and happy at your church indicates that he is seeking something more than the rituals the Catholic church offers. If he was "lost" he wouldn't feel the same. He would be uncomfortable there at your church.

I'm praying for both of you! You sound like such a sweet and sincere girl. I really hope it all works out for you! God bless you!

Answer 3

Ok, here goes, i am christian and i am 16 so i am older and wiser than you. Ok, 1stly wen u say it was ur 1st kiss at 14 i say wow, how did u manage that? also him cryin after kissing u sounds a bit weird, i mean who would do that as oppose to kissing you again and again. If u dont kiss any1 till u get married how would u kno if this person was a good kisser or not or good in the sack or watever, i think that is one thing which is really really weird cos i mean i think stayin a virgin till marraige is hard enuff but wen u include kissing well thats just crazy talk. u ask ur parents if they kissed before marraige and i bet u they will say yes, maybe even yes to sex pre-marraige well if they didnt do either then they didnt live. And im tellin u at 14 if all u are doin is kissing well thats kinda good, i mean compared 2 wat i was doin at 14, but the advice i will give is enjoy ur life i mean religion is only like guidelines and u shouldnt abide by every rule and stuff cos u would live a boring, lonely, un-eventful life, so please enjoy urself and dont worry about such stupid things like this.

Answer 4

Lady Blue is right. Don't focus too much on kissing or boy issue. if your parents ok with you having a boyfriend at your age, your parents are cool.
Go slowly on your relationship. Your parents must have reason for being upset. Ask them and talk to have a win-win solution and then make a commitment to them. Afterwards show them you are trustworthy regarding your commitment including your promise to not have sex before marriage.
I think your parents are concern your kiss will mislead you from your promise. They know that around your age the physical urge is huge temptation. One kiss leads to another kisses. Another kisses might lead to others....
so your turn is to show them you are trustworthy, mature enough not to be overwhelm by your urge (to have physical contact).
How do you keep yourself from your urge? Doing more things together with your boyfriend in fellowship at your church. You will be nurtured in The Teachings, have more friends and strengthen your faith. Your boyfriend will also get the same exposure as yourself (not necessarily must become Protestant).

Around your age your focus is school and broaden your social circle. Do not limit it. Unless you want to get married soon.

Answer 5

This is reparable only if you do the following thing:

1. Tell your parents that you have a plan for both of you to work this out.
2. Let them know that you both are willing to have a chaperon where ever you go. This old method can really work in a situation like yours and I doubt many people think of it these days.
3. Your both so young. Your parents have a valid concern and are looking out for you. They are not over-reacting but being realistic. Seek a way with your parents to work this out and heed their warnings.
4. Talk about serious and realistic matters such as: working and supporting yourselves. Your both at a stage in your life to gain responsibilities. What Church or religion will you both belong to? What your goals and aspirations are should be discussed. When your "in love" these issues get put aside but have a huge impact upon your future together.

Hope it works out but reality might make things more difficult for you both. The best thing to do is to confront it head on.

Answer 6

Oh honey with the dramatics, Listen it's natural to have emotions and feelings. Now its how you handle them now that's were the problem comes in.

Jesus Loves and understand that thou you are spirit you are covered in flesh, and the flesh would do anything to satisfy itself.

Pray to your Father and ask him for strength and help for your friend he seems to be pulling away from he's Father.

Now honey this is the part you pro baby do not want to hear. Your going to have to separate yourself from him and let him know he's falling hard and needs to face that he has turn his back from God and needs to comeback or you won't be able to remain friends

From what you wrote, you seem to be very young and lack the knowledge of the word. (not a insult) so the blind can't lead the blind. Encourage him to go to your Church and attend the Youth Group and speak to counselors of the Church. God Bless! Love.

Answer 7

14 is young but you kissing Him is not so bad..But what your Parents are worried about is it leads to other things....That is their concern...And making you both brake up is not the answer ...It is building your trust back up in your parents....Their is a lot of growing up for the both of you to do.....stop crying and just realize that ...That wasn't so bad...But if you grow up to fast then their is not nothing to look forward to...When you do become age ....So take things slow and the way you should....And just remember that your parents have you both in their best interest....You are still children at 14 and things could lead to you becoming parents your self and that is their biggest concern...Because it has been known to happen......Just trust in your prayers and everything will be just fine....And always have the respect for your parents and ABOVE all YOU RE SELF......Enjoy being a Kid for it only last for a little while.....Then you have to grow up....God bless you sweetie and don't be ashamed....Just trust your Parents and the things that you think are not right Pray about them and they will all work out....Bless you in your life's journey....And being catholic don't mean that you both cant be together some day ...That is a blessing because you can teach Him and He can teach you about His religion...God is good and He love you and wants the best for you and so dose your Parents.....

Answer 8

whats up, don't be offended or something, yet i individually do no longer think of you are the right age yet to additionally be in a relationship like that yet. i'm 17 and that i've got not had a boyfriend until eventually now, never even hugged a guy in my existence, (to boot relatives) and that i'm completely content. i do no longer precisely evaluate kissing incorrect, although this is maximum suitable to avert until eventually marriage because of the fact it ought to bring about some particularly enormous difficulty, yet to the persons who say it relatively is not sin, i prefer to point out that being in disobedience on your mum and dad replaced right into a sin. As for that, in case you relatively are a believer, i might say you need to make an apology on your mum and dad, hear while they prefer to talk greater approximately it, repent and make your relationship with Christ good, and my suggestion, even though it must be particularly complicated, is to no longer see this youthful guy back. the justifications being that we ought to continually no longer be unequally yoked, and you're somewhat too youthful nevertheless. have faith God with the effect, and understand that he will forgive you.

Answer 9

What you are feeling is pretty normal but you should only go to activities which other people are around. To keep yourself pure you must avoid situations which could put you alone with this boy. God has given to us sexual desire but you are much too young and unmarried and have a lot more of life to experience before commitment and marriage. I do not believe this kiss would lead to porn or other things for this young man seems respectful of your feelings. It isn't as if we are animals and cannot control ourselves. I think it is wonderful that you are able to confide in your parents and tell them anything. Pray about this situation and talk with your pastor with your parents as I don't believe you have done anything that is beyond repair. You sound like a wonderful young lady...stay as pure as you are now and your wedding day will be spectacular.

Answer 10

Sweetie, I think your parents love you and they mean well, but they are seriously misguided. Yes, it is true that kissing does lead to more... but not to the extreme that they have taken it. It is normal for teenagers to want to kiss each other, and you should be very careful about doing so, but I disagree with them telling you that you have opened his sexual floodgate etc. That was naturally opened with puberty and you had absolutely nothing to do with it. I think they are just trying to make you feel so guilty that you won't do it again.

As for him being saved, that is very hard to say. That is only between him and God. Personally, I believe that Catholics are idolators. They pray to God and Jesus but then they have elevated Mary and the saints and have all these statues that are idols. As a Christian, you are instructed to obey your parents. And also, not to be unequally yoked which means not to marry someone outside of your faith. In the Old Testament, the Israelites always got in trouble when the married someone from another nation, because they brought in false gods and idols. Then God punished them. The Bible says that the Lord disciplines the ones He loves. That means that if we continue to disobey Him and we don't repent of our sins, He's going to eventually punish us. You might not like your parents rules, but you must obey them and honor your parents by being respectable to them.