A "friend" of mine has been causing strain between me and my boyfriend. She thought her harmless hitting on him was fine, but my boyfriend took things the wrong way. He had a crush on her but he's now trying to get over it. The problem is that she's in pretty much all of our friend groups and so hard to get away from. I even had a talk with her a little while ago and she seemed understanding, but then shows up when we're hanging out totally vamped out (with me in jeans and a t-shirt) Does anyone have any advice on how to keep her away or keep us away from her? Should I tell my friends and try to get them to not invite us all at the same time to things? Should I bring it up with my boyfriend (again)?
2006-11-07 17:51:12 · 15 answers · asked by Jacqui 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You boyfriend, if he is devoted to you, should be able to resist her charms. If he can't, he's the wrong guy. You can't cut her out of your life to keep your relationship safe. If he is not stolen away by her, it will be by someone else.
Make him responsible for staying faithful to you, don't make third parties responsible for the continuance of your relationship.
Blame the guy for once. And why on earth did he develop a crush on your friend if he's meant to love you? If you can't trust him, you should cut and run!
2006-11-07 17:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nat R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no offense but your friend is such a jerk. If I were her I would not have done any kind of hitting on your bf because it can be harmful and I wouldn't want you to get hurt. I hope that she isn't your best friend because that would completely suck. Talk with her directly and ask her whats her problem and why does she shows up every time. If she is your true Friend she would understand and is she isn't then you know whats best for you. If your bf really loves you he wouldn't even care about her. I think you should get things sorted out from both sides.
2006-11-07 17:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by miss_magic047 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You got it all wrong kiddo. I have a bros before hoes dating policy. If a chick gets in the way of one of my friends or causes a problem than she's gone. You're just dating this guy. You're not married and not tied to him in any way. Keep your friendship with the girl and find a new guy. Never loose a friend over some dude you're dating. It's not worth it!
2006-11-07 18:13:31 · answer #3 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell your friends you will agitate the situation. some might take her side and some might take yours. it is better to settle relationship problems with people involved because if you let other people give opinions then things will get screwed up...rumors and such...you should try to avoid her then. take your boyfriend out on a romantic dinner. take him out to the beach. go out on real dates, just the two of you. enjoy your alone time you missed when you hung out with your friends. now is the chance to get all snuggly wuggly and romantic. try this for about 2 weeks. they will probably get the idea that you and yur boyf are pretty into each other...
2006-11-07 17:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by painintheneck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to stray there is nothing you can do about it. Have faith that he loves you and would never decide to see your friend behind your back. Jealousy will make you old, very fast.
Talk with your boyfriend. If it is meant to be between you both, you will survive some other woman hitting on him. If it wasn't meant to be ask him to please be honest if he finds himself attracted to her to the point of cheating on you.
It would be nice if you spruced yourself up a bit, just in case any nice looking woman comes strolling by. Do your best to keep him happy and ask him to always be honest with you beforehand.
2006-11-07 17:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is not a good one, friends don't hit on their friends boyfriends. And your boyfriend should put her in her place and tell her he is not interested. If he's your boyfriend how could he get a crush on her? I'd be wondering about the both of them. Not to sure about him, but I'd write her off.
2006-11-07 18:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he now trying to get over her when he's in a relationship with you? Did he start liking her before or after he got with you? It sounds like they like each other and he probably doesn't mind her flirting with him. I would tell that triflin hoe to stay away from my man. There is always some hoe who's going to want your man...as long as your man is strong and doesn't give in then you don't have anything to worry about. But it sounds like your man already fell in her trap and he likes her...
Yes...try talking to your man again...
2006-11-07 18:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by JamaicanGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront her and tell her that you don't want her as a friend anymore and to buzz off before you take some drastic measures and kick her face in!!
2006-11-07 17:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it's kinda in his hands if he wants to be trustworthy or not, right? Nothing anyone else - other than her- can do, right? So all you have to do is decide if you can trust him, right?
Oh, wait, I know - he just wants a threesome!
2006-11-07 17:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you and you boyfriend could go out on your own more. but really if he has a crush on her and decides to go for it there isnt alot you can do.hope it all works out for you good luck
2006-11-07 17:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋