I have a guy finally and I'm sure what to do, u see it is the 1st time anyone asked me out. So anyone with good advice on how to have great lasting relationships your answers are greatly needed
2006-11-07 17:37:36 · 12 answers · asked by mizz_shrimp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just look at this one as a learning experience. Don't worry too much, just be yourself as much as you can, and don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with, and since this is your first one then you should probably not do anything physical for a long time. Just think of it as a friendship with a guy. Take your time, you have your whole life ahead of you.
2006-11-07 17:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION (the biggest one), trust, honesty, kindness, respect, love, and fun/playfulness!
I don't think I really have to explain them except for communication. Most of us are actually fairly poor communicators when it comes to relationships. We are self-righteous and don't fully understand the meaning of apology. We think it's only used when you're admitting fault, which is far from the truth. Apology is about compassion. If you've hurt someone's feelings, REGARDLESS of whether or not you intended to, you need to apologize for hurting them. It doesn't matter if you think you're right. It's not about right and wrong, it's about recognizing that something you did, for whatever reason, caused someone pain and upset. Apology is so incredibly powerful. Forgiveness is as well; the two go hand in hand. But our strong desire to be right all the time really puts us in bad positions. That's where fights come from, and why arguments are often not worked out. We don't want to be open to possibility and we don't want to apologize. We want to accuse. We also like to play games and keep feelings inside instead of expressing them honestly whenever we're feeling annoyed or upset. It doesn't matter how small it is, say it! You will only cause more harm by bottling it all up. Without good communication, the relationship will be very rough and dysfunctional. That's just an idea. Good luck!
2006-11-08 01:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all kiddo, you're not going to have a lasting relationship with your first boyfriend. You're very optimistic, however not so much realistic. Here's the thing. Just be yourself. If it works out that allrightythen... If it doesn't work out... Get another guy. It's not a hard concept. Just date who you like till you find the one for you.
2006-11-08 01:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty and understanding are key to a lasting relationship. I just got out of a long relationship. It was a good time while it lasted, we just decided that we aren't right for each other, but it was a wonderful five years because of honesty and understanding.
2006-11-08 01:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by veggie_85_16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so first of all you sound like a teenager, because all people are asked out in their teens first. I would like to tell that everybody (almost) thinks that their first love should be their last but that doesnt happen with everyone. SO take it slow, see where it goes. Dont try to push it and have fun.
2006-11-08 01:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by miss_magic047 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is key. keep the realtionship honest from the get go. the only way to have a lasting realtionship is open and honest communication this is where so many people go wrong. Congradulations and good luck
2006-11-08 01:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a deadhead! and a stickybeak.
Dump your baby boy (He's 13yrs old by the way) you are in yr 10, he's in yr 8! He's dated 8 other chics in total including your sister.
Dumby dum dum! Quit playing with baby boys! don't do something you will regret.
2006-11-08 22:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly gang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By yourself and let him be himself.Dont follow the guy everywhere he goes.
2006-11-08 01:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give each other space when needed, dont try to control eachother, communicate as much as poss, respect one another, and enjoy eachothers company.
2006-11-08 01:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? my advice is to not let him make a move on you. then you know he's really for being with you
2006-11-08 01:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋