Im so lonely.?

Question

I miss this guy, but i know for a fact hes not good for me. he has so many girls. But i still want him so badly, its been about two months since we ended it. i Thought i was over him, i even had a new guy. I recently decided this new guys not for me, not i miss the old one so badly. I want him. i dont know what to do, its like this deep desire how do i get rid of it and be content with myself and being alone.

obviosuly im trying to forget, i cant.

Answer 1

Youre a pretty smart girl. This boy you care about badly has lots of girls you say, well you are smarter than all of them because you know in your heart that he is bad for you. That is the first step. You will be lonely, I have been there many times. The only suggestion is self control. When you feel the urge to call him or be with him, ring a girlfriend instead. I guarantee, with time, if you use your self control, the urge will diminish and you will learn to see yourself as a capable young woman, who is able to rely on her own instincts, who is strong enough and capable enough to know she has the skills to do it on her own. You will become very strong if you just stick to your guns. Dont contact him as hard as it may be, just dont do it. You will be a better person for it, and let me tell you now, the more you learn about yourself, the more you learn that you are strong and capable the more attractive you will be to your next boyfriend. You will also know more about what you really want in a guy, so take this time, it will be good for you....work out what it is you really need that will make you happy. You certainly are not stupid because you know now this guy is not good for you. Just think of all the negative traits of this guy and you will soon find that you are too good for him. Let the other silly girls fight over him...Maybe they will get smart one day too and he will be left with no-one.

You deserve better. You deserve a guy to love you exclusively, and you will find there is a guy out there who you will love more than you could ever believe is possible. It happens all the time and it will happen for you, you just need to give yourself some space to get to know yourself again. You can do it.

Answer 2

OOO, i think you need to forget about him, because he is just not worth it. There are so many other better guys out there. You should think about how many other guys are open, rather than how many girls are over him. If he is not even interesetd in you then forget about him. Life goes on, and i have learned that the hard way. If you think of the past you will get screwed so don't. Think about meeting someone else and starting a new and better relationaship. Not unless you really think you guys should marry each other you should even think about it. If your relationship is one where you were together for like 6 months or something like that, then i think you should leave him. If he is not comming back to you, foget it, he is a jerk. And if you really want, call him, talk to him. he cant do anything.

Good luck

Answer 3

the only reason you miss this guy is because you got really attached to him, had good times and were together for X amount of time. i went thru the same phase with my bf-with whom i got back together with- when we wroke up but realized that hey there is more candy out there and if you keep on dweling you will make yourself miserable, depressed and nothing more as time passes! you should actually remember the good times you had with him but close that chapter on him once and for all since there is a reason that you two split! when you close the chapter on him and you move on you actually see how much you have missed and how much you have out there for you that you ignored! if you keep on dwelling time will pass you, chances will pass you also and maybe some actually better guys will never be given the chance by you since you are so hung up on him! you will miss a lot on life, chances and everything because you made this guy your whole world! now focus on you and how to be happy: be it through going to a spa with your best friend, working out, getting a new look, whatever it may be! you are still hung up on the guy who does not care for you the same way therefore it is your loss in the long run! learn to enjoy life, to go out with some one better than him and stop comparing others with him and enjoy the time because it will not return not a day nor a week nor a month from now! you miss out so much on life that it is crazy! at some point you have to let this guy go and move on with your life and what is important to you, to learn from the past and to become wiser and to learn your mistakes! you will always want something that you cannot have yet you also have to understand that you will always crumble, fall, struggle, get up and move on as it has been proven over thousands of years by the most brilliant philosophers! you do not need a guy to make you happy but rather yourself and to enjoy the small things that you once did and now are taking for granted! i hope this helped!


ingrid

Answer 4

you love the bad boy type and you have a serious fever, get out of there for now, and dont have any new boyfrend since you are not ready yet , and you are still getting over this man., i dont know the man you like is a player, he is not yours, and will never be yours, do you want that kind of relationship, you always have someone to share with, it might seem challenging and exciting at first but in the long run, it would get boring
now try to fall in love or atleast do something better than just thinking about men...there are other things to think about you see

Answer 5

Read the book "He is not all the into you". It is short and to the point on how to get over a guy. This will help unless you are the type of girl that just likes "bad boys"

Answer 6

Your only soultion is to know more additional guy so that he fills up the space in ur life,
or you can know 2 guys in the same time,
dating with one on saturday and the other one on sunday,
That's cool

Answer 7

is normal to miss this guy that you used to spend time with. but obviously he's no good, specially because he sees too many other girls and that's hurting you. try going out with girlfriends and meeting new guys friends. going out on new dates is always quite refreshing. good luck.

Answer 8

well all i have to say is dont forget him... everytime you think about getting back with him think about how your heart is going to get ripped to pieces whenever he goes and screws around behind your back....this will make u not want him as much...

Answer 9

Forgive and Forget!


Or Move On !!

Answer 10

Baby , he is allowed to sleep with as many girls as he likes. You must start sleeping around and loosen up your bra straps and just do it.