ok me and my boyfriend broke up about 4 months ago , but i still love him && i know he still cares about me , however this girl has been feeding him && my friends lies sayin that i talk about them and all this other crap , which is one of the main reason why me and him haven't gotten back together . i just found all this out today when i was telling my friend about something that had happened and she thought something totally different had happened because of what that other girl had told her . how do i make my ex believe that what i have to say is true && get his trust back ? my friends are now on my side but what should i do about the girl ? how do i make her stop && get my ex's trust && relationship back ? pleeease help!
2006-11-07 15:53:05 · 1 answers · asked by rebel_angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is believing what this other girl is saying, then he is unlikely to want to talk to you. If I were you I would put all the truth in a letter and send it to him. Try to keep it as brief as you can with all the details in the first few lines in case he thinks it is just a ploy to get him back. What you write in your first couple of lines need to hit him in the face so he wants to continue reading. Maybe getting to the point straight away saying ..."such and such(girl who is spreading rumours) is telling you lies, I have proof, please read on" That should get his attention so that he will read on to get your side on things.
You have friends on your side, so that is a real plus, they obviously believe you over her and if you have their support it wont be long until your ex finds out the truth too and this girl is exposed for who she really is. It will be her who loses out in the long run. Vindictive people only have their victory for such a short time and then it all blows up in their face. You have the truth on your side and the truth should always win out in the end. Note I say, should. Your ex may genuinely like this girl so wont be ready to believe the truth even if it does hit him in the face. If she has won him over, then it is going to take some pretty clever thinking on your behalf and you have to start thinking of ways to expose this girl so that no-one will have any doubts, including your boyfriend. Maybe talk to this girl yourself....set her up and tape the conversation. Your ex boyfriend cannot deny the truth if he hears it with his own ears. Girls at your age are pretty smart at working out ways to get back at the "bad" guy. Use your imagination, there are ways to expose this girl. Get together with your friends, think as a group how you can achieve what it is you want.
I wish you all the best and I hope you get your boyfriend back. But even if you dont, a girl as loyal as you wont have any problem finding another boy who trully trusts you and wont easily be put off by words of a stranger, and basically that is what has happened. He has known you for much longer than he has known her, yet he has believed her over you. If he believed in you, he wouldnt have been so easily put off. so I would really be questioning if he is the right one for you. It was too easy for this girl to pull him away from you, so it seems to me he hasnt much loyalty and is too ready to believe the negative instead of trusting his girlfriend.
Good luck...hope it all turns out the way you want it to.
2006-11-07 17:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋