sibling rivalry?...at her age???

Question

as old as she is , my sister refuses to talk to me, when i see her/when we are in same building, she acts as if she doesn't know me, when we meet somewheres she looks the other way.
as far back as i can remember when we were growing up , it was always this way. both our parents are gone now, sometime i wish i had a close relationship with her but she doesn't want no part of me. her daughter my niece, we use to be close, now she won't talk to me also, could she have told her not to be so close to me????

Answer 1

Odds are your sister told her daughter not to talk to you but it's not your nieces fault, it's her Mother's, remember that. As far as the sibling rivaling there's no age that that's not possible. What caused this? Were you two compared to alot growing up? Gosh, I hate to go her but I will. My sister and I are both in our 50's
and she has always hated me with a passion, we haven't spoken in over 2 years and she has instructed her 30 year old son that if he talks to me even at family gatherings she's through with him, fortunately he told her he loved her but I did nothing to him and he will have a relationship with me. Anyway I love our Mother but I blame her, she always compared us and that's not a fair thing to do. I even started to go to counseling over the whole thing. I've come to realize that it's okay if she doesn't want anything to do with me, I still love her and I'd be there if she needed me, I can't make her like me and I can't change things. It's her loss that we aren't in each others lives and with or without her I will go on and I will be happy. I will not let it ruin my happiness or my life.

Answer 2

well you have not completely stated why she is acting this way, you have not told us whether you have done something wrong to be treated this way
as far as im concerned sibling rivalry does exist and it can seriously disrupt any good thing, my sister is a;ways jealous of me and is not yet mature enough, i dont really have much of an idea how to solve this, so i just let it go, i dont dwell on it, time will give us a chance, so as not to get this issue larger i dont talk about it, i dont bad mouth my sister either, i just concentate on other things in my life, it is totally not in my control
but if you are brave enough write your sister a letter , ask her why is she treating you that way, you are the only family she has if your parents are already gone, and that you are hurting and that you want to get closer and make it work, be honest tell her what you feel, ask for an explanation
tell her even just in a letter, atleast you have tried to patch it up and make it work, if she does not respond dont feel bad, let her take her time , whatever is bothering her,its sure must hurt
just ask God, if you believe in God for guidance

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You have not told us "why" she refuses to communicate with you. There has to be a reason behind her behavior.

I say life is too short to hold grudges...especially with your family members. Who knows what tomorrow brings...

Ask yourself these questions:

What if my sister dies tomorrow? How would I feel if I did not know why she hated me so badly? OR Maybe, I could have apologized for anything I did to hurt her so badly.

As far as her daughter...a daughter's love is strong...she may just be upset her mother is hurt so bad.

Answer 5

Sounds like she is really jealous of you and I would sit her down and get all the answers from her. You don't have anything to lose but so much to gain. Go for it sister!!!!

Answer 6

talk to her, call her! It won't hurt, did you ever do something mean to your sister, like stabb her in the back, or tell her deepest darkest secret? Just think, think, think.


-Emis♥♥♥
(P.S Best of luck )

Answer 7

tell her to just grow up and tallk to her about what you have done to get this and talk about it and end it, i would never be able to live if my sister ignored me for the rest of her/my life...

Answer 8

i feel you
i got the same prb;em