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Question

My bf always calls me to see what im doin. he wants to know my every move. we have been going out for alomost 3 yrs, i love him and hes just recently started this. Oh and his new friend might have alot to do with. He does almost everything with us if were not alone hes with us. HELP!!! what should i do

Answer 1

He probably wants to know your every move because he might feel guilty for something he did. Tell him to tell his friend to back off, you guys need time together thats why its a relationship.*

Answer 2

Sounds a bit suffocating doesn't it. Ok, sounds like your bf is either missing you so much when you're not with him that he rings you just to see what your up to. Ummm that could be a good thing..... I think lol... OR he's just an overprotective type. If he starts to manipulate you, or start telling you where you can and cannot go, etc etc, then i'd leave. But try to tell him how trapped you feel and try to come to some sort of understanding in regards to your freedom, and to back off a little bit. If he truly loves you he will listen and respect that. In regards to his new friend.. well.. guys need their buddies around. It's a fact of life. But this sounds like it's a little too intrusive and if it is starting to affect you it will start to affect the relationship. Try and set some boundaries in regards to when he can come over, and set some time for just you and your bf to be alone. You just have to put your foot down, take control, and take no prisoners lol best of luck

Answer 3

well first you can tell your boy friend that you want alone time with him and that if he cant see you alone then he can go out with his buddy now don't mean mean to him just let him know that you need to be alone with him it could be that he is afraid his friend is trying to make moves on you and there could be a trust issue there with him always checking up on you when you are alone with him talk to him about this and ask him if he doesn't trust you if you have never given him any reason not do this would be his insecurity but about this deal with his buddy always being with the two of you if this really bothers you talk to your boy friend about also let him know he can have his time with his buddy but if he wants to be with you then to leave his buddy at home i wish you the best this could be a easy fix 3 years is long enough to were you shouldn't have any problem being open with each other to tell each other how you feel i really hope it works out for the best for you.

Answer 4

Tell your bf that i think we need some alone time sometimes because thats why hes always calling you so much he cant really talk to you or do anything and he just luvs you tht he wants to talk to you alot.when his friend is around so just tell him can you plz try to make your friend understand we need some alone time and he cant go everywhere with us.



Hope everything works out ok!

Answer 5

If he's all of the sudden starting to get paranoid about what you're doing... maybe he's doing something wrong. I had a bf like that, he always wanted to know where I was and if we didn't talk for a while, I had to account for almost every second of my day, turned out he was cheating on me, and he figured, if he was getting away with it, I could've been too. So, he got paranoid from his guilt. Hopefully this isn't the case for you, and maybe his friend said something to him for him to question your faithfulness? Good Luck.

Answer 6

Ask him why the sudden change first, and who knows he may tell u. It seems u guys have a great relationship, Ask him. I would not bring up the friend b/c he is the third leg getting things stirred up, behind ur back. It would not be a great idea, but mention his change and see what he says!!!!! best of luck!!!!

Answer 7

well girl, i've been in your spot.. been there done that... and all i can say is talk to him.. you need to tell him i've been with you for 3 years.. who would you trust more me, or your friend... and i've been with you for so long and you NEED to trust me.. in a relationship the number one thing you need to learn is TRUSTING one another.. and if you can't do that you don't have a relationship.. and this new friend of his doesn't sound good.. but show him that you have nothing to hide... i've been going out with my boyfriend for 47 months now.. almost 4 years and we've gone up and down.. very much like a roller coaster.. all i can tell yah is to buckle up and hold on for the ride... hope this helped!

Answer 8

Talk to your boyfriend...communication is a key element in any relationship...ask him why he suddenly wants to know your every move, and that you'd like to spend more time as a couple (instead of a threesome)...

Take the answers and go from there...

Answer 9

If you haven't confronted him about this then u need too...u need to find why out of the blue he's watching your every move...there needs to be a level of trust between both people, if not then why be together...and if this fiend of his is alwys around ya, then u need to confront him about that...ya both need your time and ur friends needs to understand that ya both need to be alone and that you are not offending him in anyway..hopefully your boyfriend understands and that he's willing to work this out...good luck!

Answer 10

It wouldnt bother me..I have been with mine for almost two years and I love him to death I cant get enough...but if he is smothering you tell him. Good communication is key to a successful relationship. oh and i have the same problems with that third wheel too...talk to ur guy about that too...explain that you like his friend but hes cuttin in on your "couple" time...