he cheated on me but i don't wanna seem desperate. we were together over 2 years and i love him. he hasnt called yet but should i call him? should i forgive him/
2006-11-07 15:01:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way! You can do way better than that! If he cheated on you, who's to say he won't do it again! Just forget about him.
2006-11-07 15:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by ღღღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the cold hard facts...he cheated on you because he didn't care about you. Be glad you weren't invested in him longer than two years before he showed his true colors...CHEATER. He hasn't called because he doesn't care. He's probably with another girl perhaps the one he cheated on you with. Sure it hurts because you love him . But unless he gets down on his knees & begs you to forgive him you should dtay away from this dog. His inaction says he doesn't seem to care. If he did he would be trying to contact you. If you call him you will make yourself look desperate...forgive him of you want but move on. Seriously you need to get a crip on reality not let your thoughts drift off into fairy tale land where he is waiting by the phone for you to call him and tell him you forgive him and want him and his cheating ways back into your life. You'd be doing yourself a favor if instead of calling him you go out and buy the book : He's just not that into you" Read it and you'll realize it's better to face the truth sooner rather than later. There will be another guy in your life and maybe next time he'll be smart enough to control his libido and show you honor & respect by be faithful. I know this is probabaly not what you wanted to hear. But if you chase after him you're basically saying OK bad dog you **** on me but I'm still gonna love you....
2006-11-07 15:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound desperate, you just seem like you have a good heart and you cared/care about him. But, if you're in doubt... don't.
There's probably a reason you asked this question here. Your heart may say call him, but your mind is questioning it.
Feedback is always nice, but ultimately, you have to make the choice... and the choice may be something else altogether. It may be move on or don't move on?
If you want to call him because you're lonely or missing him... what do you really miss if he cheated on you?"
Here's a couple good sayings my mom has come up with in the past (gotta love her, she's a true east coast woman, straight and to the point) She says: "Ex's are ex's for a reason" and "Love is blind, but the neighbor's ain't".
Good luck with whatever you decide to do. :)
2006-11-07 15:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by DL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just let him go and forget about him.If you call him you will seem desperate and like you didn't care he cheated on you.If he hasn't called you obviously he doesn't care that much for you or hes probably with another girl.Find someone new forget him you deserve better and dont forgive him cuz once a cheater always a cheater.*
2006-11-07 15:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT call him because you will seem needy. He cheated on YOU and don't you think you deserve better than that mistreatment and lack of caring? He is unlikely to change and you must be wary not to seek the same pattern in future boyfriends over and over again.
2006-11-07 15:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me I did the whole take them back and forgive them thing and I got burned. Once a cheater always a cheater. Get over him and move on, there are a lot of other guys out there who would be better for you.
2006-11-07 15:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nooo, don't forgive him. That makes you look stupid and vulnerable to it happening again. As much as you may THINK you love him, he doesn't love you in return or he wouldn't have done that. Love does not consist of cheating, and you should call it off imediately, no matter what the circumstances are.
2006-11-07 15:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by xoxo_butterfly_kisses_oxox 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know all the details involving your situation but i think if he really loves you and wants you back he will call and if you call he will think he can get over on you all the time.Pretend you don't want him anymore and he will eventually call you and if you really want him back then take things slowly and make sure you can trust him before getting back with him or you will regret it.
2006-11-07 15:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh excuse me but was't he the one that cheated on you?! Girl please , if you call him and tell him you forgive him and tell him you want him back what the hell you think is gonna happen one month from now?! HE IS GONNA CHEAT AGAIN! You're just askin to be be his doormat. He needs to be callin YOU, beggin for forgiveness! What the hell you thinkin?!Girl you better get a rebound and continue on with life, I bet he's out with some other chick right now.............I BET!
2006-11-07 15:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by Juicy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you want to??? He cheated already. If you let him back in your life, he has the potential to cheat again. If you can live with that, then call him.
2006-11-07 15:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋