Isn't this sooooooooooooo unfair?

Question

Every weekend when most kids are hanging out with friend I have to stay home and babysit my sister .I can't go to parties sleepovers or hang out wit freinds,because my parents are at work and need me to watch her. My sister is a big brat too,and I'm not just saying that she has no friends that is why I never get a break with her going on a play date. I suggest my parents take her to work with them [they own a chain of restraunts and all they do is check up on them],but they refuge . Its not just me it is unfair huh

The reason my parents won't hire anyone is because they don't trust anyone with thier precious baby,it isn't about the money. they think that me always taking care are my sister is manatory and that it is the kinda job big sisters are suppose to have I wish I were an only child

Answer 1

Life isn't fair

Answer 2

babygirl: Yes; this is unfair to place you into the position of playing mother to your parent's decision to have a child [sister]. You need to have a life too, to a reasonable extent for your age. Ask your parents to pay for a babysitter once in awhile, so you can attend some parties and be with your friends on the odd Saturday afternoon or evening for a change. Remember though, life is not always easy and you need to help your parents out sometimes but not all the time. You need a balance to suit your age and needs for now. Good luck to you !!!

Answer 3

You did not say how old you or your little sister are, but I am assuming you are a young teen and she is mid adolescent.Do you get paid for watching your sister? You might want to talk to mom and dad about getting paid for it and then ask them if you could possibly watch her on alternate weekends and then be able to go out with your friends. Then, they could take her with them on those weekends. You need to talk to them calmly and as grown-up as you can be about this and don't whine and throw a fit if they refuse. In that case, you should just wait a few months and then ask them again. But, in the meantime, accept the responsibility with no complaints and let them see that you are responsible for caring for your sister, but that you are also mature enough to be allowed to have some free time with your firneds too. Are there not any relatives or close family friends that mom and dad could leave sis with sometimes? You might mention to them that if something were to happen to you (say a medical emergency like appendicitis or something) and you had to be in the hospital for awhile, who would watch her? Or, if you were to get into a school activity or sport...you would need to be away on the weekends and not able to watch her.
But, above all, they gave birth to her and she is their responsiblity and you are not required to watch her just because you are the older sister. If that is the only reason they had two children, then they had them for the wrong reasons.
Good Luck Honey!!! Hope things work out!!!

Answer 4

It does seem unfair, you definitely need a break, but there is always a positive with a negative, and the positive here is you and your sis will always be close, forever, you are sacrificing for her, and not now but in later times she will always be grateful to you, and respect you. And obviously your parents don't trust anyone like they do you!!!! You really have a lot to be thankful for, believe it or not, nothing is more special than a close family, but I know that doesn't matter now to you, you want your own life and that is okay, invite friends over to your house, or when you go out take your sis too. Do things that involve little ones, I had to do what you are doing for 3yrs. helping out my folks watching my sis, I am older now but my sis loves me the most, and I will always have a friend with her.
Good luck to you, it will get better, your parents I am sure are very proud of you, and will greatly reward you!!

Answer 5

I'm sure you heard it before, but...Life is unfair sweety.

Being a big sister, does not interpret...FULL PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITES.

I mean, you were not the responsible one who chose for your parents to have another child...right?

As a BIG sister, you should help your parents out..YES, this is true! You could care for your sister for a short period of time a few days a week...YES this is true! These things teach you responsibilty.

But...on the flip side of this coin...you do need some time to focus on things you want to do (so long as your grades are good and you do not risk being punished).

You should be CAREFUL on angry hateful words...your sister did not ask to be born...the way you feel towards her is not her fault!

Don't make things worse...always look on the bright side of things...

Good Luck :)

Answer 6

Why don't you ask your parents for just 1 night off a month. Let them know that you will watch your sister without complaining on 3 weekends if you are allowed to go out 1 night a month. Maybe you could talk to your mom and find out why they don't want you to go out, maybe they are worried about you and want to make sure you are out of trouble so they use this babysitting thing as their way of keeping you home. Another suggestion, why don't you talk to your sister, nicely ask her if there is something you can do to make her happier and maybe she will get some friends. Try to get her involved in an activity like Girl Scouts or if you go to churgh a church youth group or something. Work with her on manners, being friendly with people, etc. The more time you spend with her the more likely she will respond to your kindness with kindness. Belive me, when I was a teenager I hated babysitting my 2 little brothers and felt like Cinderella, but now they are cool and we get along fine, it just takes some time and trust me, the sooner you start being kind to her and showing interest in her activities the sooner she will start to make friends and who knows, you might just be the friend she finds.

Answer 7

Yes, it does seem a little unfair. She is your sister, but you do need your own social time and fun with your friends. Once in a while is ok, but not every weekend.

Perhaps your parents could hire a professional and reputable babysitter once in a while so you can attend sleepovers and be with your friends.

It sounds like they can afford to and it's not an unreasonable request.

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Answer 9

It is unfair of your parents to place you as a constant babysitter to your sister. You need time to be yourself and be with friends of your own age. Discuss this with your parents in an adult way (without temper-tantrums) and they will realize what a burden they have placed on you. I am sure, depending on the age of your sister, that they can find an adequate babysitter so you wouldn't have to do it all the time. But do help your parents sometimes with it.

Answer 10

We all have to do things in life we don't like. Some of us work to pay bills and work for bosses we hate to get the job done. It sounds like every once in a while you should get a break from having to watch your sister. But your mom and dad seem to be trying to get ahead financially which is why they probably don't want to hire a sitter for the kido. Sorry for not being 100% on your side but I'm there 75%.

Answer 11

For a moment you sounded like my teen might. I think you may want to talk to them and let them know how you feel

My dd came to me and there are times I take the lil sis with me if it's to the store or whateve but there are times when I can't if it's to the docs.

This is just my opinion but your parents had her not you, and it's not fair they don't give you SOME freedom although you should be willing to help out too because they do feed you and put a roof over your head. Try to come up with a compromise