I cant look at people in the eyes as they pass by me or are next to me at a red light etc..because I feel like everybody will give me evil looks and be offended that Im staring at them, is this true?
Plus other girls give me mean looks for no reason, I am a nice person and I dont understand it.
2006-11-07 14:57:40 · 20 answers · asked by Lanie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lack of self confidence. Other girls are looking either because you are gorgious, you dress well or their just stupid women. Look ppl in the eyes and take control of the situations.
2006-11-07 15:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! How do you know they are giving you "evil " looks? Who gave you the power to look into other people's eyes/minds, and see what it is they are thinking? Are you some kind of psychic?
Of course you aren't. You are simply projecting ( a psychological term) your feelings, and thoughts onto those other people with the expectations that they will see/feel/ as you do. It's not THEM, hun, it's YOU! You feel worthless ( which you are wrong about), and think others can see into your mind and see that worthlessness.
You may also be an habitual liar, and feel others can see the truth through your eyes, so you avoid giving the lie away by not looking into their eyes. Of course we know that eye avoidance is a typical indicator of lying, anyway, so it doesn't work, right?
You need some serious coaching on self-esteem issues. Talk to some adult you can trust.
2006-11-07 15:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. To fix, start with people that you know you have a right to look at, i.e always look the checkout person in the eye and say thank you when you're buying something, or the Waiter when you are ordering food. Then start with people that you pass by when walking. At first, just keep you're head up and don't look down, just stair straight ahead. Eventually, you can move towards eye contact, and a simple nod or smile and finally a quick greeting.
2006-11-07 15:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by Agent69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maggie, I agree with what others have said, but let me add 2 possibilities.
1. You never tell the truth - I have always heard that not looking someone in the eye when you talk to them means you are lying. Your situation does not seem like that.
2. You are creating a worse situation by your failing to look people in the eye. In the situations you describe in your question, you are the perfect example of a victim. Please, for your own safety, start looking around and being aware of your surroundings, watch out for gatherings of people, and certainly the environment where you are walking, driving, or going. On the street look people in the face so they know you are aware of them. Good Luck
2006-11-07 15:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oftentimes we wonder why someone is looking at us a certain way and don't realize that WE are looking at THEM in that way. People's faces are mirrors, most of the time. Try smiling and see how many smiles you receive in return. And if you don't feel like looking at someone in the eyes, it's more likely because you are operating on the premise that it may result in a negative way. After several days of smiling and being aware of your own facial expressions, you'll more than likely start looking at people in the eye again.
Eyes are the window to the soul. It is a marvelous thing to make such contact with another human being, especially when the thoughts, facial expressions, and vibes are all positive. You'll get hooked on it in no time.
2006-11-07 15:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by Morpheus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that, but you have to try thinking about them judging you, instead go out there and judge them. Stare into their eyes search for there soul and and try to work out what makes them tick. Sometimes people just looking normal can be misinterpreted as looking "evil".....don't worry if you're a nice person you have nothing to worry about.
Practise on your pets, then family members, then friends, then strangers.
I find now if someone does not look me in the eyes when I am talking to them, I think they are not really listening to what I'm saying, and therefore I get distracted.
2006-11-07 15:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by ang_172 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still insecure of who you are. Don't worry, you'll get over it. Just smile back and say Hi to people. No need to stare or eyeball people, since it is creepy. Just go ahead, don't be afraid. It is easier to smile and that will make your brain secrete good neurotransmitters. Girls tend to give dirty looks to other girls because they feel intimidated if the other girl is prettier; it is just plain envy. I really dislike that also. Makes me furious. But that is a sign of bad manners and insecurity on their part also. Take care.
2006-11-07 15:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say the eyes are the windows to a persons soul.. some people.. like my sister can not and does not like to look people in the eyes. I know her and it is because she is afraid someone will see what is in side her..
could it be that you are afraid of what you might see in someone elses eyes?
2006-11-07 15:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one will give you evil looks. If you happen to make eye contact with someone... just shoot 'em a smile. If they're not a grouch, they'll smile back. Both of you will feel good about it.
2006-11-07 15:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by misschaos489 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i have the exact same problem(well its not really a problem i don't really care) when im going out for a walk or something
i just look straight ahead, and pretend like im looking at the scenery or something lol
but that doesnt mean you should not respond if someone says hi
2006-11-07 15:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋