ok, i play judo at our school and i'm really liking it. i have the passion for the sport and yet i am having difficulty deciding whether to proceed or not. everytime i enter the dojo, i'm feeling so cold and a bit nervous inside. not to mention the person i really like...i love her so much but it gets me nervouse everytime i'm around her. i don't know what to do... Geeezzz!!!! please tell me what you think. you can say that i am desperate about this stuff. judo has already become a part of my life but i have a feeling that i really can't go on doing it. i just don't think i am made for judo at all.
2006-11-07 14:47:01 · 12 answers · asked by caige 3 in Sports ➔ Martial Arts
well how long have you been doing it a couple of weeks? months? if so you're not gonna automatically become a great judoka from just a few weeks of training.
it takes time to get comfortable on the mats, and learn how to use the techniques you learn properly, so just stick with it and it'll come the more you practice it.
as far as the girl you got a crush on, you should use that to your advantage, by using it as motivation to do better in class, and who knows you might just impress her a little. and you should just talk to her every once in awhile and get to know her better (moreso since you two are both students trying to learn Judo, and this is a good way to do it) and that'll prob'ly help with the jitters ya got whenever you get around her, just talk to her about things in class to break the ice and put you (and prob'ly her) at ease.
good luck dude, and good training
2006-11-07 15:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So are you asking about martial arts or a person that you are in love with.
I feel that if you don't want to do a martial art then don't. It is not for everybody. If you only wish to quit because you are nervous at your dojo then you have a couple of options. You can look at other schools. Or you can figure out what is making you nervous at your school. Have you had a bad experience there? I would need more information to help with that. If you just have general nervous feelings then you must conquer them or they may haunt you forever. Do not live a life filled with regret and dictated by fear.
Push through the fear.
If you are having issues because of feelings for a member of the opposite sex, then you need to post this question in another category.
2006-11-08 04:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by spidertiger440 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I began karate several years ago, I had a REALLY nervous stomach (always in the bathroom before class!) for the first few months. I think you'll get over that; it just shows that you are excited about it. Martial arts will build not only strength, but character and self esteem as well. You will become more confident around this girl, and if she is worth it, she will appreciate this positive change in you. Best of luck and train hard!
2006-11-07 15:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Zenchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, basically, are you asking if you should keep doing it? Well, I know how you feel. When I first started Taekwondo I had a crush on a brown belt. I ended up messing up the instep in my left foot on the second day because I was trying to show off in front of him, too. He ended up choosing my friend over me, but I'm glad, because later I found this great guy who I'm still with. Today makes four months and one day for us.
But, if you really love the art, then stick with it. Master Seo and Shahid gave me some advice at the place I take Taekwondo. They told me not to worry about everyone else around me, to just focus on what I'm doing and nothing else, because that's the same way for them. While we're all doing our forms and kicks and punches, we're in our own little world. So, I'm giving you the same advice. Just focus on what you're doing, and if you want to you can help each other out. Don't get too nervous around her. Just two nights ago, I was doing my yellow belt form and my boyfriend surprised me by showing up and watching. I started messing up so bad and giggling and stuff, which got everyone into trouble and we had to do a bunch of sit-ups and push-ups because of me.
Just try and relax. Okay? Only quit if you really need to, not just because you think you're going to keep messing up. It takes time to get good at a Martial Art. You're using muscles you've never used before, and doing things you've probably never done. I should know, I still kind of suck and I'm supposed to be a yellow belt with a black stripe. Lol.
Anyway, I hope my information helps you. If you need anymore help, just e-mail me. All right. =) Good luck.
2006-11-08 05:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some od these questions only you can answer. You need to look deep inside yourself. I don't get how this girl fits in with Judo. Don't worry about being "made for" Judo or anything else. Attitude always beats aptitude.
2006-11-07 18:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by yupchagee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep practicing. I decided to take Muay Thai, and was immediately scared to death because I was informed that I was the only girl in the class. I almost didn't take it, but I decided to step up to the challenge. Don't let whoever happens to be in the class with you affect your decision to stay there (whether it be your enemy, your crush, etc.) The only things that should affect that decision are your interest in it and your enjoyment of the class itself. If you started this class just to be around a girl though, you shouldn't. Martial arts are very disciplined and quite challenging. Find another interest that you and your crush might actually have in common and participate in it instead.
2006-11-07 15:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay, Practice, Play.
Judo is about testing yourself... It sounds like this is a decision that is truly a test of if you want to do Judo. Keep on going!
2006-11-08 12:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by ninja lessons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm doing kung-fu and I have the same problem.I'm really good but when somebody watches me I can't concentrate any more.It's even worse when I have a contest,my legs start shivering with emotions.You need to encourage yourself,I keep saying in my mind at the beginning or during a contest that I'm good,every thing's going to be all right,there's nothing to worry about.
2006-11-08 00:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by black_cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Priorities.
You want to keep up judo for yourself, or to be around some chick (if she's in your judo class...is she?)? Better get your mind straight. Martial arts takes discipline and self-control...you can't be successful if your mind is on some babe.
2006-11-07 14:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is not to stop playing your favorite sport, but if it is not something that you want to continue playing then you should stop. But always remember that you must continue to play same thing, anything just to keep your body in shape.
2006-11-08 01:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋